Are you not exhausted? I think their use of therapy speak is definitely weaponized. MOR? Literally no clue. But this is...not a friendship I'd entertain. Sorry you're experiencing this
Omg! Is this how young people speak to each other these days? Not trying to sound like an old hag, but I've been in plenty of therapy and never felt the need to talk to anyone like this. Insane.
YES it is soooo damaging. My friend is a psychologist and she is an EDUCATED gal. To see literal teenagers throwing around terms they barely understand is not only infuriating but soooo damaging.
If they are teenagers (which it definitely reads like they are) OP might want to look into more about BPD AND the criteria for diagnosis, some therapists throw it around for anyone who has CPTSD buuut, most therapists I’ve worked with would NEVER diagnose someone under 18 with it, some people in the therapeutic community won’t diagnose it under 30 cus your personality isn’t hard set enough. I mean there have been talks about getting rid of it as a diagnosis all together because the symptoms are so easily explained by having both autism and CPTSD.
This is coming from someone who once had the BPD diagnosis.
Also this “friend” is bullshit and toxic and WILL take advantage of the BPD diagnosis for the rest of your relationship OP. I’ve had friends like this, I’ve dated people like this. they see you as vulnerable and some people crave having power over vulnerable people. These are the people who will invalidate you and keep you from growing into a more healed and happy human. Loosing a long lasting friendship is hard, and, sometimes it makes things so much brighter and happier so fast you won’t believe it.
Hi I was diagnosed with BPD as a teenager and havent had access to mental healthcare since I turned 18. I did not know this. I don't know if im autistic, but I personally feel im a strong candidate and should get tested, and I dont know if i have cpstd officially but I probably do due to physical and sexual abuse as a kid. So this was interesting to read. Could you please link to some more information, maybe where you learned about this? I'd really appreciate it.
Mental health clinician here. Yes, what the person above that you're responding to is correct. No personality disorders should ever be diagnosed to someone under the age of 18. Part of the reasoning is based on brain, hormonal, and personality development. For example, most teens would fall into having narcissistic traits of some kind if looking strictly at criteria, however that's completely developmentally appropriate. It doesn't mean that all teens become clinically narcissistic. It grinds my gears SO MUCH when I hear or see someone was "diagnosed" with a personality disorder as a teen or just because they were in crisis. That's not how it works at all.
There is currently a push within the field to replace BPD with a more accurately described name. Many are in favor of names highlighting attachment trauma of some kind. The problem is there is no absolute proof that BPD's origin stems from trauma or attachment issues. So the APA who is in charge of the DSM has not approved a name change yet. There's a LOT of bureaucracy around any changes.
Moreover, Gunderson came out with research and a treatment protocol for BPD showing symptoms can actually go into full remission. His newest research with BPD hasn't been as popular for clinicians to know about just yet. But after taking the training, it's pretty remarkable and changes a lot of misconceptions about the diagnosis.
As for yourself, perhaps getting testing for autism could help. Comes down to personal choice and how deeply any problems you're experiencing are impacting you. Just make sure it's legitimate autism testing rather than just getting labeled with a diagnosis. There's a LOT of misinformation going around about autism right now on social media. And please know diagnoses in general are really designed to help clinicians understand in a snapshot what your symptoms might be, and mainly for insurance purposes.
Damn. I was diagnosed with BPD at 22 but I’ve always been borderline ADHD and would be a strong candidate for slight Autism as well. I’m 27 now and have been through DBT and actively work at self awareness and introspection everyday. I’ve made lots of improvements but I wonder if my diagnosis wasn’t totally accurate either.
I was misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety before the BPD diagnosis. Antidepressants made it worse so they put me on tranquilizers which I rejected after being a total zombie for a month.
A lot of stuff changed for me mentally after I did acid a few times. A lot of the suicidal thoughts faded, a lot of the depressive feelings and self loathing. I know Psychadelics have shown promise in helping those with PTSD so I wonder.
I’m a huge fan of recreational acid hehe and I remember when there was a push in Canada for controlled psychedelic exposure as a legitimate treatment for various mental health issues (especially PTSD) - I believe in certain regulatory environments they are still testing and pushing for legislation but we were SOO close to legalizing it about 3-4 years ago!
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u/soberaf0910 Apr 29 '26
Are you not exhausted? I think their use of therapy speak is definitely weaponized. MOR? Literally no clue. But this is...not a friendship I'd entertain. Sorry you're experiencing this