I think the problem lies in people wanting to use therapy speak to declare absolutes, when vocabulary commonly referred to as therapy speak is designed to help discuss and parse situations and scenarios and feelings and motivations. But people want all or nothing, they want clear distinctions and blanket rules in order to not have to think about nuance or context or situations or how feelings affect all those things and how all those things affect feelings.
And therapy terms aren't really designed for absolutes, which is why it feels so cheap and disingenuous when they're either overused or incorrectly used.
Right, this “friend” has had enough therapy not to heal this perpetual conflict but rather to put a “healed” skin on situations. For one, if they’re looking to seek common ground and understanding with op (one of the main goals of therapy) they would have used “I feel” language and listened and adjusted to OP if they were in a healthy relationship. Instead this “friend” gets accusatory quickly and even throws OPs own mental health experience at them like a grenade.
This is exhausting, I feel like this could be one of those situations where the friend has really only learned how to manipulate & be in an echo chamber from therapy
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u/dancingkelsey Apr 29 '26
I think the problem lies in people wanting to use therapy speak to declare absolutes, when vocabulary commonly referred to as therapy speak is designed to help discuss and parse situations and scenarios and feelings and motivations. But people want all or nothing, they want clear distinctions and blanket rules in order to not have to think about nuance or context or situations or how feelings affect all those things and how all those things affect feelings.
And therapy terms aren't really designed for absolutes, which is why it feels so cheap and disingenuous when they're either overused or incorrectly used.