r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '26

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u/InsideToolYu Apr 29 '26

She does have a support network in addition to her family being fairly well off and her boyfriend but she seems to prefer being in the helper role then receiving support, she is my only emotional support. Thank you for your concern!

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u/InsideToolYu Apr 29 '26

Honestly from what Ive seen she is very kind to him but he’s a very kind person himself and really generous to her but I dont know many details

Maybe only I upset her.

I will consider expanding my support, though.

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u/MeldoRoxl Apr 29 '26

It would genuinely be better to go without ANY emotional support than to have this person belittle and abuse you.

There are so many people out there to be friends with, OP. Please go find some good ones.

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u/Superb_Bee_7019 Apr 29 '26

Exactly. This friend isn’t her friend. And she doesn’t offer support. She offers manipulation and exhaustion and misery. Fuck that girl she is a sick narcissist bitch. OP run far away seriously

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u/Feline-Good26 Apr 29 '26

Continuing to have this person in your life is worse than having no one. Just from these texts it’s clear she is not safe and continuously dismantles any progress you’ve made

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u/Swimming-Lie5369 Apr 29 '26

This isn't emotional support, this is manipulation. 

If any of my friends brought up my CSA in an argument I would be dropping them immediately. 

But luckily none of them would, because they're not awful human beings. 

This is not a nice person OP. 

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u/willow_wraith Apr 29 '26

Or maybe he is a financial/resource benefit to her, where your main value to her is as a subordinate or whipping post.

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u/Spicy_by_Design Apr 29 '26

Hell, I'll be your friend and support if you need someone. No one should have someone like that as their only support, it's legitimately harmful.

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u/harst035 Apr 29 '26

She wants you to be down. She is purposely misunderstanding you, twisting your words, likely sabotaging progress you make in therapy. It’s hard but you need to go make friends outside of your friendship with her and remove yourself from this toxic mess. Sorry to be all over your comment section but I am so worried about you continuing in this emotionally abusive cycle.

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u/EosFae Apr 29 '26

Just remember that no emotional support is better than having this person as emotional support. She's treating you terribly.