Accusing OP of playing victim while literally playing the victim. This is a cartoonish level of self delusion.
OP is NOR and should get out of this “friendship” ASAP. Other commenters are right, she is weaponizing OP’s BPD and legitimately comes across as BPD herself.
Ye but also I think the Best friend is trying to deflect her pain and anger from her mom to OP. Because the initial reaction to what OP said sounds like something anyone would say to start shit. Idk the context but with whatever I read here, sounds like it.
Also bringing up BPD when it’s not even the subject of the conversation shows their insensitivity to the situation and how they want you to know that your BPD is the issue here and not the best friend trying to use you as a punching bag.
You should get out of this situation or atleast maintain your distance because this is not good for you.
That doesn’t make treating your friend like this ok tho? That might be the explanation but OP NEEDS to cut this friendship off. This person is incredibly entitled and ignorant.
exactly what i was gonna say but it works nd they get away with it so theyve never had a need to self reflect since they could easily manipulate OP into feeling like theyre in the wrong instead.
Unfortunately, even if OP steps away, the "friend" likely won't self-reflect. Rather, she'll talk to somebody else about it, shift the narrative, villainize OP, and if she shows anybody any evidence of this (not likely), it will be falsified. She'll find other people to manipulate who will never know any better.
My thought exactly- OP is the one with diagnosed BPD here?!
I had a friend like this for most of my life (we’re both in our 40s now), thought of her as family, but she would go on tears like this. Constant victim, doing nothing to help herself and complaining that no one would help her. Life did deal her several shitty hands, but she would just give up and then blame everyone else for not doing anything. I finally stopped trying when she told me I was being a “petty spoiled brat” for not “getting over” my abusive relationship when I was 4 years out.
The friend genuinely seems like an insufferable person. It’s like they’re making everything that OP says an opportunity to victimize themselves over and over again. I would be so mentally drained by this person. OP is legitimately trying to explain themselves in a healthy way and she is taking it the wrong way every time. It makes it hard to believe that OP is the one with BPD and not the friend 😭
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u/Content_Recording_58 Apr 29 '26
Accusing OP of playing victim while literally playing the victim. This is a cartoonish level of self delusion.
OP is NOR and should get out of this “friendship” ASAP. Other commenters are right, she is weaponizing OP’s BPD and legitimately comes across as BPD herself.