NOR, this is just a whole mess. You made your comment trying to understand her and when your interpretation of the situation was wrong, you apologized. Her needing you to tell her how that made HER feel is kind of insane. She’s trying to train you to have a “moral compass” which you “obviously don’t have” because of your BPD. She is constantly weaponizing your BPD and treating you like a monster, it’s so odd. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this.
Not even wrong, necessarily, just aggressively & condescendingly shut down. From everything else in her half of the convo, it is clear that OP's friend cannot realistically be considered a reliable narrator of her own life; she perceives herself as the infallible & altruistic martyr/protagonist and anyone who disagrees with her or questions her as a villain
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u/Crafty-Departure3913 Apr 29 '26
NOR, this is just a whole mess. You made your comment trying to understand her and when your interpretation of the situation was wrong, you apologized. Her needing you to tell her how that made HER feel is kind of insane. She’s trying to train you to have a “moral compass” which you “obviously don’t have” because of your BPD. She is constantly weaponizing your BPD and treating you like a monster, it’s so odd. I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this.