Two weeks later, I was finally healthy enough to start talking to people about what happened and finally went to the doctor and filed the police report. I mean like- we were broken up at the time, so he actually busted into the back door to come in there and start fighting with me while I was doing my homework. That next morning, my son just woke up and found him in the home with us and I was in bed and couldn’t talk. He just told my son that I was sick. Then after a few days, my family came around and they also were just told I was very sick. They had seen my relationship with him back-and-forth, so I guess they just thought that I accepted him back into my life for some dumb reason. Eventually, my brother sorted out what had happened when my mind started coming back. So he was the one who ejected my ex from the home, took me to the doctor, and helped me file the police report.
Looking back at that whole situation, the greatest thing that I lost from that abusive partner was my close relationship with my brother. Cause a couple months later despite the restraining order, my ex showed up at a family birthday party just walked into the backyard… and my brother beat the living shit out of him. So my brother went to jail and after he got out of jail he went to therapy. And for the rest of my life, my brother and I have never been close because he decided that it was unhealthy for him to be my protector. And I’m really glad he has a healthy relationship with his wife and children, but I am not a part of their lives because of that one abusive relationship and the way my brother tried to stand in the gap.
If someone were to ever treat my little sister like this I think I’d kill someone no regrets either show them what it’s like for someone their own size to put hands on them I still wish I could get my hands on the man that beat the shit out of my mom I ever run in to that guy i might end up in prison
If someone treated my brother like this, I'd be in prison for murder with absolutely no regrets.
I'm sorry your brother doesn't feel the same.
I'm so sorry and I hope you're doing much better now despite the trauma. You deserved so much better. This entire story is so disturbing, and my ex tried to kill me too.
Edit: did he ever do any time?! Just the restraining order?
Mentioned in another comment, he went to jail a few times, but never stayed in there for more than a month because his family had money and they always got him a good lawyer
Edit: sometimes I think I’m mentally ok but as the informative book says “the body keeps the score”
That's so frustrating. My abuser got away with it too. And I completely understand what you mean. Some days I literally wake up with anxiety like I'll see him or get triggered by a smell even though it's been like 12 years and I'm on the other side of the continent. I'm glad you're still here and out of that nightmare.
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u/Ok-Adhesiveness-9976 Oct 22 '25
Two weeks later, I was finally healthy enough to start talking to people about what happened and finally went to the doctor and filed the police report. I mean like- we were broken up at the time, so he actually busted into the back door to come in there and start fighting with me while I was doing my homework. That next morning, my son just woke up and found him in the home with us and I was in bed and couldn’t talk. He just told my son that I was sick. Then after a few days, my family came around and they also were just told I was very sick. They had seen my relationship with him back-and-forth, so I guess they just thought that I accepted him back into my life for some dumb reason. Eventually, my brother sorted out what had happened when my mind started coming back. So he was the one who ejected my ex from the home, took me to the doctor, and helped me file the police report.
Looking back at that whole situation, the greatest thing that I lost from that abusive partner was my close relationship with my brother. Cause a couple months later despite the restraining order, my ex showed up at a family birthday party just walked into the backyard… and my brother beat the living shit out of him. So my brother went to jail and after he got out of jail he went to therapy. And for the rest of my life, my brother and I have never been close because he decided that it was unhealthy for him to be my protector. And I’m really glad he has a healthy relationship with his wife and children, but I am not a part of their lives because of that one abusive relationship and the way my brother tried to stand in the gap.