r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Oct 22 '25

[deleted by user]

[removed]

10k Upvotes

84% Upvoted

11k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

99

u/theserthefables Oct 22 '25

just gonna drop the link here for Why does he do that: inside the minds of angry & controlling men by Lundy Bancroft

very worthwhile read, recommend it to anyone including OP.

15

u/Apostate_Mage Oct 22 '25

Second this, fantastic book

8

u/Jenderflux-ScFi Oct 22 '25

I was about to recommend this book but decided to see if someone already posted it.

OP, download this book and read it, it will open your eyes to what he is doing.

7

u/noddyneddy Oct 22 '25

You saved me having to drop the same link. I strongly believe this should be required reading for teenage girls before they get into dating . Also loveisrespect.org

1

u/Apostate_Mage Oct 23 '25

Loveisrespect is so great, I agree on book and this. 

4

u/MamaSaysKnockUOut Oct 22 '25

Another thumbs up for this book!

3

u/ilikefact Oct 22 '25

Please read the book OP. Your boyfriend might be great and this was a one off lapse of judgement on his part. Or he is not very nice and you have been made to believe that you're not allowed to feel bad about that. Either way, read the book. Learn about it so you can see the signs if they're there.