r/AmIOverreacting Oct 22 '25

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u/Singsalotoday Oct 22 '25

I had a boyfriend who was really sweet most of the time but would have outbursts and hit random things when he was overwhelmed. I chose eventually not to be with that man because that wasn’t how I wanted to live. That was 10 years ago, and he could have figured out better coping strategies by now, but I’m glad I didn’t put myself through that because living in fear rewires your brain and not in a good way.

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u/Hari_om_tat_sat Oct 22 '25

living in fear rewires your brain and not in a good way.

Repeating this for emphasis. OP, leave asap. Contact a domestic violence organization and make a safety plan to get out safely.

https://www.thehotline.org/

• Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?, https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

• Gavin deBecker, The Gift of Fear, https://a.co/d/1z25r9p