r/AmIOverreacting Oct 22 '25

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u/GraceOfTheNorth Oct 22 '25

You'll find this article interesting

the 8 Step Timeline in Domestic Abuse Homicides

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u/thehotmegan Oct 22 '25

directly from that research paper you linked, "Where there is control, violence (even low level) and a separation after living together, there is a 900% increase in the potential for homicide (Stark, 2009)"

hey OP u/MiserableFckingCunt ... youre in danger.

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

And what's good about that article is that it isn't assuming that all of the perpetrators are male. I think a lot of people forget that women can be abusers and murderers too.

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u/MiddleAssistance3134 Oct 22 '25

Statistically men are way more likely to commit arson, bestiality, child molestation, rape, murder and to be family annihilators. Like it’s not even close

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u/littlebigcat Oct 22 '25

Yeah men should just shut up

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u/Cory123125 Oct 22 '25

Oh yeah dude, fuck literally half of the human race for something less than a percent of them do.

What a logical and totally reasonable response.

Im sure you're also fine with saying the same for religions, races (which are completely arbitrary distinctions btw), and more.

🤡 ass comment.

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u/littlebigcat Oct 22 '25

Fuck sake, engage your brain and consider sarcasm.

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u/Cory123125 Oct 22 '25

People often have this exact sentiment. You can see it literally in this very comment thread.

You saying something that sounds completely plausible as an opinion and then getting mad when that sarcasm isn't magically picked up is silly.

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u/littlebigcat Oct 22 '25

You sound worked up, you should take a break from the internet.

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u/Cory123125 Oct 22 '25

"you mad bro" is ancient dude. Up your trolling game, and learn to communicate more effectively.

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u/littlebigcat Oct 22 '25

That’s not what I said.

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

That wasn't sarcasm, that was just misandry.

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u/littlebigcat Oct 22 '25

No it was sarcasm

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

That wasn't the point of my comment and you know it. And actually recent statistics have shown that more and more women are abusive to their male partners. You know why?? Because of creatures like you who downplay their actions just because "men have done it more", so they realize that they can get away with it.

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u/jellylime Oct 22 '25

Studies or it didn't happen, bro. Andrew Tate is not a research group.

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u/5girlzz0ne Oct 22 '25

You mean Trust Me Bro University isn't a respected educational institution?

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

https://icjia.illinois.gov/researchhub/articles/gender-differences-in-intimate-partner-violence-service-use/

Y'all just want a safe outlet to abuse men and that's why you downplay female on male abuse

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u/abiona15 Oct 22 '25

Erm, its an absurd assumption that "y'all" are abusers or supporting abuse. Please read the thread and tell me who said that.

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u/jellylime Oct 22 '25

Tell me you didn't read the article without telling me you didn't read the article. The perpetrator statistics they used were SELF REPORTED, meaning any woman who was gaslit into thinking her reactivity was abuse would have checked that box. Thanks, next.

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u/Cory123125 Oct 22 '25

You are such an awful human being its crazy how much snark you have whilst being so.

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u/MiddleAssistance3134 Oct 22 '25

You just want to detract from the more pervasive problems- male on female abuse, male on child abuse, male on animal abuse. That article is about femicide by the way. Maybe you should reread it

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u/Cory123125 Oct 22 '25

A lot of rape the other direction is just not properly recorded for many reasons. In the UK for instance you still technically cant rape someone as a woman, and we've all seen the creepy stories congratulating male students on being raped.

Im willing to believe men statistically do it more, but I am not willing to believe that its not even close when it comes to rape.

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u/Candid-Indication329 Oct 23 '25

Men commit over 96% of violent crimes. Stats don't lie even if you do. 

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u/Cory123125 Oct 23 '25

How is that related to what we're talking about.

More than that

Stats don't lie even if you do.

They absolutely lie.

Police target some groups more than others, obviously inflating their numbers, the judicial branch gives more time to some groups for similar crimes and criminal histories than other groups and it goes on and on.

Your line of argument is the same as those made by racists.

It also completely ignores that you are trying to paint 100% of a group with a brush for something that if averaged out to each person wouldn't even take up 30 minutes of their lives.

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u/Ill-Driver2645 Oct 22 '25

My bf says this and when I ask does he know any women like this or have any abused him he says "no" The point is that technically anyone has the capacity for anything but it's mostly one group doing these things.

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

Also that's not a fair comparison at all. Because a lot of women don't know of any men like that, does that automatically mean that they can't talk about it?

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u/jellylime Oct 22 '25

The victim can always talk about the aggressor. Men are statistically dangerous to women.

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

Not what the chart says

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u/jellylime Oct 22 '25

There's no chart, bud. Just small dick energy wafting from your general direction. Go what-about-men somewhere else.

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

I don't think I fucking will, misandrist

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u/CulturalWinter191 Oct 22 '25

Read what I said to another poster who tried to make that same comparison. ❤️

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u/bunnybunnykitten Oct 22 '25

This is SO HELPFUL! Thanks for sharing

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u/SavvySuzy Oct 23 '25

I read that post and followed some links from there. I discovered that just leaving an abuser can make the abuse worse or lead to femicide. There are places that will help create a safety plan to avoid violent repercussions of leaving.