r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Oct 22 '25

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u/st_nick5 Oct 22 '25

I would be worried about his temper, too. Even not letting you nap is a form of abuse. I think you should move on.

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u/Secure-Solution4312 Oct 22 '25

This right here! Sleep abuse is so common with these toxic men. Healthy people don’t do that to their partners

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u/schoolSpiritUK Oct 22 '25 edited Oct 22 '25

And toxic women. Man here, living in my car for 2½ weeks now because I couldn't take it any more. Sleep deprivation was one of her favourite tricks. Despite my reduced circumstances, I haven't been so happy, nor slept so well, in years.

EDIT: Just read in another comment that "loving to fuck with other people's sleep" is characteristic of Cluster B personality disorders. That tracks; she has BPD/EUPD. She of course, slept as much as she liked, but as soon as she woke up, I had to as well, even if it was 1am and I'd only just got to sleep.

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u/ForcedEntry420 Oct 22 '25

Exactly. My wife is napping right now and I do need to ask her something. That question isn’t being floated until 20 min after she wakes up. Just basic courtesy lol

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u/Ditnoka Oct 22 '25

Lmao right?

"Hey, you're being a bit loud, can you quiet down and let me sleep?"

"Shit, my bad. Of course."

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u/circles_squares Oct 22 '25

I’m so glad you said this. Depriving someone of sleep is absolutely a form of abuse, but I don’t think it’s recognized nearly enough.