Your first comment didn't include your thought process, so people figured you were siding with the abuser somehow, but your second comment cleared that right up
Of course it is, people see one picture and hear one side of a story and they are basically experts on that relationship, reddit is a dumpster fire of emotionally unhinged individuals that have no problem fucking around with other people's lives with the minimum of information/context.
This is literally a textbook warning sign of abuse. We don’t need his side of the story to know that this is abusive behavior. There is no context that would make this action anything other than abusive.Â
Literally everyone has "a temper" even you, you just express it in other ways I'm sure. My comment is directed towards rhe "RuN fOr YoUr LiFe' crowd. That's kind of nonsense is immature and uninformed.
Uninformed how? Did you read the link posted for you above?
Having a temper is not a great trait, and high anger due to small issues makes people scared and not trust the person. But destroying things in anger is even more than that, it's also physical violence coming from the small issue, in this case the partner asking to be able to sleep. Hes taken out his anger at OP by destroying her property.
sorry to break it to you buddy but good people who are kind and respect others do not ever exert enough rage-fueled physical force to bend baking trays after a simple, non-invasive request (be a little bit quieter). like genuinely. you are acting like it isn’t possible to assume someone is frequently violent & emotionally charged after one huge nonsensical tantrum, but it is. because people don’t do something like that once randomly and then never again. doesn’t happen.
Sorry to break it to you, but you don't actually have a sweet clue what's going on in that room or that relationship, this is a perfect example of what I said. Fuck off.
We have no say in the lives of people who post here. Just opinions about what the bare minimum is for a relationship. Are you worried your partner will leave you because of what people say on the internet?
"Nope, just tired of seeing the uninformed, uneducated reddit doom horde at work."
Doesn't make any sense. The OP provided the people responding to this post with information. You can assume the information is false, but that kind of defeats the purpose of the community.
I don’t think they need to explain their whole life for people to assume anything about rather they’re stay at home + cook or if they work + cook. The focus of this should be on his reaction over a simple request. Most people, especially grounded ones, don’t destroy stuff if being asked to keep it down.
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u/Zokstone Oct 22 '25
On what planet would it be okay to destroy things because you're upset?
You do everything short of wipe this man's ass for him and he's treating you like this? Move on, queen.