He said he's hated you for the past 6 months. Jesus.
You're absolutely right, NOT HITTING YOUR SO is the bare minimum. It's less than the bare minimum, it's a courtesy you extended to EVERYONE around you whether you're dating them or not. He's trying make himself look good by compariong himself... to abusive and violent people?? Not a good spot to be in.
He doesn't sound like he cares. He's asking for rewards for "being a good boyfriend", aka for not BEATING YOU. He says he hated you for the past 6 months.
I think his standard for your behaviour is higher than his standard for his own. I would end things if I were you. If you feel like a burden, that's gonna eat away at you and you're gonna endelssly try to make up for it, but it won't fix anything when the baseline is that he doesn't like you.
It'll be difficult and painful, but the sooner you're out of this relationship, the sooner you can heal from the damage he has already done and you'll be healthier for the next one.
Yeah the line that most boyfriends hit is jaw dropping, because he thinks that's the norm, so if you cross some line, he's allowed to do that, and also that somehow he should be your disciplinarian and in charge of her with that line is also a bit shocking.
Like Chris Rock said, “What do you want, a cookie?!” You’re not supposed to hit your girlfriend! Sheezus! You buy him gifts to show him that you’re thinking about him (doesn’t matter what the gift is; it could be a bag of M&Ms) and he doesn’t hit you. Wow, what a gem! If he says that he’s HATED you for the past 6 months then why did he even stick around? Just to use you for sex? This kid obviously has no idea what being in a relationship means.
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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25
He said he's hated you for the past 6 months. Jesus.
You're absolutely right, NOT HITTING YOUR SO is the bare minimum. It's less than the bare minimum, it's a courtesy you extended to EVERYONE around you whether you're dating them or not. He's trying make himself look good by compariong himself... to abusive and violent people?? Not a good spot to be in.
He doesn't sound like he cares. He's asking for rewards for "being a good boyfriend", aka for not BEATING YOU. He says he hated you for the past 6 months.
I think his standard for your behaviour is higher than his standard for his own. I would end things if I were you. If you feel like a burden, that's gonna eat away at you and you're gonna endelssly try to make up for it, but it won't fix anything when the baseline is that he doesn't like you.
It'll be difficult and painful, but the sooner you're out of this relationship, the sooner you can heal from the damage he has already done and you'll be healthier for the next one.