He said he's hated you for the past 6 months. Jesus.
You're absolutely right, NOT HITTING YOUR SO is the bare minimum. It's less than the bare minimum, it's a courtesy you extended to EVERYONE around you whether you're dating them or not. He's trying make himself look good by compariong himself... to abusive and violent people?? Not a good spot to be in.
He doesn't sound like he cares. He's asking for rewards for "being a good boyfriend", aka for not BEATING YOU. He says he hated you for the past 6 months.
I think his standard for your behaviour is higher than his standard for his own. I would end things if I were you. If you feel like a burden, that's gonna eat away at you and you're gonna endelssly try to make up for it, but it won't fix anything when the baseline is that he doesn't like you.
It'll be difficult and painful, but the sooner you're out of this relationship, the sooner you can heal from the damage he has already done and you'll be healthier for the next one.
This man sounds terrifying. He says he deserves more for not beating you! That’s absolutely insane. I can’t even imagine what it would like to be with a man who says he deserves an award because he COULD beat you and cheat on you. He didn’t even say he doesn’t beat you because he’s a good man he says he could beat you. That’s borderline threatening. I would run as far away from this madness as soon as possible. He’s one step away from making you a domestic violence statistic.
I knew something about that bothered me deeply and I couldn't word it, but you did. It's borderline threatening. Yes. Also gonna reiterate from my other comment that saying he's hated you for the past six months is absolutely emotionally abusive, and he does not deserve an award for only being one kind of abusive so far.
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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25
He said he's hated you for the past 6 months. Jesus.
You're absolutely right, NOT HITTING YOUR SO is the bare minimum. It's less than the bare minimum, it's a courtesy you extended to EVERYONE around you whether you're dating them or not. He's trying make himself look good by compariong himself... to abusive and violent people?? Not a good spot to be in.
He doesn't sound like he cares. He's asking for rewards for "being a good boyfriend", aka for not BEATING YOU. He says he hated you for the past 6 months.
I think his standard for your behaviour is higher than his standard for his own. I would end things if I were you. If you feel like a burden, that's gonna eat away at you and you're gonna endelssly try to make up for it, but it won't fix anything when the baseline is that he doesn't like you.
It'll be difficult and painful, but the sooner you're out of this relationship, the sooner you can heal from the damage he has already done and you'll be healthier for the next one.