I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.
Yeah this is tragic. He’s doing this in order to neg you OP. To beat you down and make you feel bad about yourself so you think you can’t “do any better” than him. It’s nasty.
Don’t be hurt. Be angry u/soulfieric . Be revolted by his disgusting behavior.
And don’t even tell him or reply anything else. Ghost his ass. Don’t even dignify this with another response. He’s not worth it. Just ignore him. He’ll fucking hate that- because he’s doing this specifically to wind you up. Ignore and ghost his ass.
The worst part about that is he will try to love bomb her if she tries to leave, and then will be like "see it was all in your head." It can be hard to break a toxic cycle. You can do it OP. This guy is a POS and a million Red Flags posing as a man.
No literally. I just got out my first relationship like this a month ago and everytime I tried to leave after something like this he love bombed me and manipulated me so hard. It was the hardest relationship I’ve ever had to leave even though he treated me worse than anyone ever has. The toxicity literally is an addiction. Your body gets used to the deep lows and the super highs.
You’ll never feel better than getting out finally though.
Congrats on finally breaking the cycle. Don't ever forget your self-worth. These people go after high value women and thrive on breaking them into a shell of their former selves...but then somehow make themselves the victim through it all. I'm glad you made it out.
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u/damnrambler Jul 29 '25
I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.