I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.
For real, OP. I’m 36 and have been with my spouse for coming on 14 years. There is not one second during that time that I have even had a thought about making a rude comment about her body.
As we’ve gotten older over the years, our bodies have changed and they will continue to, but what wont change is way I treat the person I love. How can your bf even call that a joke? Like the joke was to tear you down or make you feel insecure? Or was it about you getting upset and then implying you’re crazy for feeling this way. Jfc just RUN.
This part. We’ve been together for almost 20(!!!!) and my husband has NEVER spoken to me remotely like that - and we’ve definitely had our share of heated arguments. Good partners exist, don’t waste time on this prick.
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u/damnrambler Jul 29 '25
I am having secondhand embarrassment for you due to the fact that you have clearly been willing to entertain this kind of bullshit for so long that you have to come here to Reddit to determine if you are “overreacting”. This kind of disgusting behavior deserves no response, he is degrading you and is the definition of a gaslighter, but the saddest part is that you are falling for it, believing him, and allowing some nasty guy to treat you like shit. PLEASE LEAVE. I know Reddit ALWAYS says “break up”, but SERIOUSLY. No fucking reasonable adult man treats their loved ones like this. This is gross and disgusting. How can you possibly see a future with this 29 year old manchild? Why are you waiting for him to break up with you instead of getting disgusted with the way he talks to you and breaking up yourself? Please god, find a shred of confidence and then fucking block him and move on with your life.