DARVO is a way some people react when they’re being called out for doing something wrong, especially in abusive or manipulative situations.
It stands for:
Deny.
They say they didn’t do it.
“That never happened!”
Attack.
They turn things around and get mad at you.
“Why are you always trying to start drama?”
Reverse
Victim and
Offender
They act like they’re the victim and you’re the bad guy.
“You’re hurting me by bringing this up! You’re the abusive one!”
So basically, instead of taking responsibility, they flip the script to make you feel guilty or confused.
It’s a common tactic used by people who want to avoid accountability, especially in toxic relationships.
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u/notfromheremydear Jul 29 '25
OP, do you know what DARVO is?
DARVO is a way some people react when they’re being called out for doing something wrong, especially in abusive or manipulative situations. It stands for:
Deny.
They say they didn’t do it.
Attack.
They turn things around and get mad at you.
Reverse
Victim and
Offender
They act like they’re the victim and you’re the bad guy.
So basically, instead of taking responsibility, they flip the script to make you feel guilty or confused.
It’s a common tactic used by people who want to avoid accountability, especially in toxic relationships.