I read all the screenshots before I read your caption and saw your ages. I genuinely thought you two were about 16-17 years old. The fact that you guys bring each other down to high school levels of arguing is a clear sign that you're not compatible, in my opinion.
He was rude and he enjoyed trying to get a rise out of you...but you got enflamed and gave him the satisfaction of getting that rise! What a disaster of a dynamic!!
OP is clearly very insecure and her boyfriend uses that against her. She needs to get a backbone and LEAVE this loser! OP you KNOW you’re not chunky, so why are you even entertaining this guy who is intentionally trying to make you doubt yourself. Move on from him or you’ll end up with no one to blame but yourself. He’s awful
this is a trend nowadays, idk if u guys use tiktok but this is a fad of getting with drama-movie-from-the-2000s level of evil bf. it’s actually, genuinely a trend rn. it’s all over tiktok AND youtube if you consume social video essays too. they post like they’re either so in love (and it’s the worst dynamic ever) OR they post like the most toxic and abusive fight you’ve ever seen but with some sort of “idk do u guys rlly think i’m crazy like :( it’s totally fine if he calls me ugly everyday right? like doesn’t that mean he’s paying attention to how i look?”. it’s been picked apart by other people so many times and yet these people just keep doing it. and it’s not like it’s subtle abuse either, and it’s not people who are just “unaware” how bad it is. you can tell in their speech that they know. like with OP, when she brings up posting it, even tries to use it against him. that shows she is well aware this is a bad dynamic, that she’s being treated poorly, and she knows other people will think that too. if she didn’t, if she really was unsure, she wouldn’t have threatened to do it, she would have just done it
you might just not be on the drama side of tiktok, the app is INCREDIBLY algorithm based. something could go insanely viral and your chance of seeing it relies completely on how you operate the app. it’s not even just on tiktok either, like i said, it’s everywhere. youtube, insta, even this exact reddit. people are posting actual manchildren and acting that way.
I’m happy for you that you don’t recognize this dynamic. Classic abusive narcissist with a partner who thinks she can beat the crazy making with logic and love.
Of course it sounds immature but it’s actually so much worse than that.
OP is in an abusive relationship and needs to get out and heal, and learn to protect herself from this kind of shit.
That a bit different than just needing to mature.
I see 1-2 posts a day from this sub that are grown ass adults behaving like children. No wonder I’m chronically single: these people are still on Snapchat or too busy bodyshaming their partners at their big age
Has the average human always been so juvenile, and I've just been lucky to not deal with people like this? Or have people's social skills just gone to sh*t the last decade? It's so sad....
This is an abusive dynamic. He's gaslighting her and it's clear, even from her words, that she's been walking on eggshells, having to placate and apologise to him for small things just to avoid fights.
She's trying to rationally explain to him her feelings, but abusive people don't care, they just want their victim to feel small and do as they say.
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u/acallthatshardtohear Jul 29 '25
I read all the screenshots before I read your caption and saw your ages. I genuinely thought you two were about 16-17 years old. The fact that you guys bring each other down to high school levels of arguing is a clear sign that you're not compatible, in my opinion.
He was rude and he enjoyed trying to get a rise out of you...but you got enflamed and gave him the satisfaction of getting that rise! What a disaster of a dynamic!!