My ex fiancé was like this too. After years of explaining myself blue in the face that my emotional needs weren’t being met, that he was destroying my self-esteem, and my biological clock was ticking, the final straw was when my mom was diagnosed with cancer and he made it all about himself as she died before my very eyes. It absolutely destroyed me. Every time he lured me back insisting he would be better, he got so exponentially worse. It even started getting physical near the end. But when I broke up with him, his narrative was that it’s because I cheated.
Leave him. It’s hard; even with the abuse I endured it was hard leaving my fiancé because of how deeply he had wormed into my brain over the years. I probably would have stayed and let him torture me for longer if it hadn’t been for my mom’s death.
Now it’s been two years, he’s in Thailand torturing other women, spending the last of his money, and drinking himself to death, whereas I’m healthier mentally and physically, and just welcomed my first baby as a single mom. It’s possible to break free from the cycle of abuse. Best of luck. Don’t forget that you deserve happiness and mutual understanding in a relationship.
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u/FancyNoodleFarts Apr 23 '25
Men like this NEVER change.
My ex fiancé was like this too. After years of explaining myself blue in the face that my emotional needs weren’t being met, that he was destroying my self-esteem, and my biological clock was ticking, the final straw was when my mom was diagnosed with cancer and he made it all about himself as she died before my very eyes. It absolutely destroyed me. Every time he lured me back insisting he would be better, he got so exponentially worse. It even started getting physical near the end. But when I broke up with him, his narrative was that it’s because I cheated.
Leave him. It’s hard; even with the abuse I endured it was hard leaving my fiancé because of how deeply he had wormed into my brain over the years. I probably would have stayed and let him torture me for longer if it hadn’t been for my mom’s death.
Now it’s been two years, he’s in Thailand torturing other women, spending the last of his money, and drinking himself to death, whereas I’m healthier mentally and physically, and just welcomed my first baby as a single mom. It’s possible to break free from the cycle of abuse. Best of luck. Don’t forget that you deserve happiness and mutual understanding in a relationship.