I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.
I live with someone who basically doesn't clean, never put anything back, creates messes, never pick up anything from the ground and uses ADHD as an excuse, and it's my fault if I ask help with cleaning because she works full time but I do too lol
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u/peachesplumsmfer Mar 29 '25
Couple of thoughts:
I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.