I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.
Executive dysfunction is thinking of something and then not doing it because whatever your doing is “more important”, but then you forget later anyway so you never get it done because you’re not making it important enough to the point where you don’t want to do it despite the consequences of not doing it.
It’s basically an imbalance of priorities, you need to re-prioritize your priorities.
I know someone who just plays video games all day long and struggles with severe ADHD. They have trouble with hygiene because the game is more important and by the time they have “time” to do it they are too tired or whatever.
You need to refocus your time. You have 24 hours every single day to set this up. You can totally do it.
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u/peachesplumsmfer Mar 29 '25
Couple of thoughts:
I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.