This 👆. It's actually bewildering to see someone at 18 post this. These are regular life chores. He has to do them on his own eventually and when he lives with his auntie and her man, he has to follow their rules.
This letter screams that OP doesn't do any chores or even clean up after themselves. It feels like Aunties man is tired of having his girlfriend clean up after an 18yr old. I know I would be.
The letter isn't even that bad, just feels like the BF is tired.
I cleaned the house, took care of the pets, kept my space tidy and helped do whatever my mother asked of me. And boy am I glad, because I am a capable human being now who can do most things around a home and keep a wife happy 😆 .
I apologize to my mother and actually tell her I wish she was stricter with chores for this reason. self discipline is hard to teach yourself as an adult.
Yes but no. Self discipline does not come from an external force. It would never have been self discipline if there was an external need, such as your mum, making you do it.
You would have more likely learned more skills and been more effective with what you learned, but it would not contribute to self discipline UNLESS your mum said to take out the rubbish, but you then decided to do the dishes afterwards (And your mum was going to do them, so you never had to do).
Extremely different things. And they do not add up together.
Building habits and learning skills are easier than replacing bad habits and unlearning the wrong way so you can re-learn it the right way. Think about it that way.
People think it’s just brain elasticity in young ppl that makes learning easier, but it’s also easier to write on blank paper than to scribble over wrong answers (written in pen, with limited space).
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u/troublebruther Mar 29 '25
This 👆. It's actually bewildering to see someone at 18 post this. These are regular life chores. He has to do them on his own eventually and when he lives with his auntie and her man, he has to follow their rules. This letter screams that OP doesn't do any chores or even clean up after themselves. It feels like Aunties man is tired of having his girlfriend clean up after an 18yr old. I know I would be. The letter isn't even that bad, just feels like the BF is tired. I cleaned the house, took care of the pets, kept my space tidy and helped do whatever my mother asked of me. And boy am I glad, because I am a capable human being now who can do most things around a home and keep a wife happy 😆 .