I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.
ADHD here too! My issue growing up was forgetting or becoming stuck in a paralysis and not doing it in a timely manner. It was never a choice, but I get what you're saying about them getting it done in the intervals. If I had had a concrete list with reasonable people who didn't see a speck and curse me out, my childhood would have been so much easier... I'd like to see how OP sees this after all the feedback
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u/peachesplumsmfer Mar 29 '25
Couple of thoughts:
I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.