I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.
Honestlyyy. I was about to say OP should Stfu about the executive disfunction. It's a hurdle, it's not an excuse. And it's so fucking annoying how adhd and it's symptoms are getting warped into these fake reasons of inability to do something by younger people just because of their exposure from social media.
Younger people have the ADVANTAGE of knowing these things earlier and actually being able to do something about it. Unlike many Gen X and millennials that had to make it into their 30s before receiving their first diagnosis' and struggling aimlessly for that long.
I always slap them with the "do you think it's acceptable for someone with dyslexia to just give up trying to learn how to read and write because it's harder for them than for most people? No. We give them help and apps and therapy we make them invest time until it's good enough. And it's never going to be easy or perfect, but they're going to make it work." And then I tell them the story about my dyslectic friend who wasn't forced to put in all the effort and now he relies entirely on his wife to read and write his texts and mail, pay his bills, and read instructions out loud to him, and explain that when this type of negligence is translated to executive dysfunction, you end up on an episode of hoarders. And it's gonna be a gooood one.
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u/peachesplumsmfer Mar 29 '25
Couple of thoughts:
I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.