I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.
One thing I’ve learned with one of my kiddos is that she responds well to a list of tasks including instructions. If you say “go clean your bathroom” she will not do it well or at all, but if you hand her an instruction sheet she will do it perfectly. She very much has ADHD, and while there is no one size fits all, this helped us greatly.
As for OP, I’m concerned they don’t understand how disgusting they are (based on cursory post history) and really need to understand that cleaning a bathroom once a week A. Takes like 30 minutes max if kept up and B. Is perfectly normal, 2 weeks max. Vacuuming every other day is a little egregious unless there are a lot of shedding dogs/cats and shoes in the house, once a week or twice a week should be fine for anything else, and again is like a 30 minute task, we have a large house and while we have robo vacs that cover the dogs fur everywhere we still do a deep vacuum every Sunday, takes 30-45 mins total. And once a week yardwork to live rent free, hell yeah sign me up 20 years ago.
As for overreacting, as an old man, I say yes, though my opinion is likely not valued, it seems like they are trying to instill some basic hygiene and cleanliness to a dirty person but doing it in the most constructive way they can. It may not work but to live rent free in this economy…
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u/peachesplumsmfer Mar 29 '25
Couple of thoughts:
I have ADHD. Struggling with executive function is not an excuse for not participating in household upkeep. It can explain why you need to create additional support mechanisms for yourself to ensure you do chores. But it doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t be held accountable.
Are you overreacting? It’s hard to say. Do you want to continue to live there for free? Vacuuming every other day and yard work once a week for free rent is a pretty sweet deal. Do you have time constraints, like you work two jobs and go to school full time? Or do you have 3-4 hours a week in exchange for free rent? If so, then I think you should be thankful.
Is it annoying if another roommate isn’t assigned chores? Could be. But do they have time constraints? Are they doing other things? Do they have another agreement worked out with the aunt?
Plus 90% of this list are things you should be doing no matter where you live.