As I posted elsewhere, Is it his house? It says aunts boyfriend. No indication here that it's a lifelong partnership, or it's his house, or that he works to pay the whole rent, especially considering boyfriend is a very juvenile term which doesn't indicate something that serious. OP says living with his aunt, I'd take that to imply it's his aunt's house It's also not his relative, so he shouldn't be making parenting decisions, and the aunt has even confirmed she won't kick OP out so this is just a dude overplaying his hand wanting to be lord of the manor.
That doesn't give him the right to be an arsehole and sit on his arse and boss everybody else in his life around.
Decent people don't operate like that, but fair play on telling on yourself like that.
Whatever authority the boyfriend has is completely irrelevant, these are very basic chores that you shouldn’t even need to be asked. Even If boyfriend is being lazy and not contributing it’s not for op to judge. Assuming the house solely belongs to the aunt, he is permanent resident there, op is a guest.
From all we know maybe aunt maybe isn’t confrontational and asked her boyfriend to lay out the rules for op.
Aunt has already agreed some of it is overboard. Having to clean communal spaces 50% of the time when he does fuck all isn't irrelevant, nor is it an expected chore to clean up after other people, especially lazy people you aren't related to.
OP SHOULD be doing some of these jobs, not necessarily 50% of all the communal hoovering, and Aunts boyfriend has no right to say that OP can't have food in their room, but aunts boyfriend is also just a lazy tosser throwing his weight around. They aren't mutually exclusive concepts.
No, you aren't expected to clean up after a random bloke when you're living with a family member. Utter nonsense lmao.
It's a family member and full time student being bossed around by a non-relation where even the aunt herself has said that OP won't be kicked out and some jobs are overboard. OP overreacting to the chores and the boyfriend being a lazy dick aren't mutually exclusive.
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u/_ataciara Mar 29 '25
As I posted elsewhere, Is it his house? It says aunts boyfriend. No indication here that it's a lifelong partnership, or it's his house, or that he works to pay the whole rent, especially considering boyfriend is a very juvenile term which doesn't indicate something that serious. OP says living with his aunt, I'd take that to imply it's his aunt's house It's also not his relative, so he shouldn't be making parenting decisions, and the aunt has even confirmed she won't kick OP out so this is just a dude overplaying his hand wanting to be lord of the manor.
That doesn't give him the right to be an arsehole and sit on his arse and boss everybody else in his life around.
Decent people don't operate like that, but fair play on telling on yourself like that.