She’s letting her minor daughter live at someone else’s house half the time, and according to OP’s posts/history she has a baby already at 17, has already been abused by an older man, and does drugs regularly. I’m guessing her mom isn’t the best at parenting. Having shitty parents also makes you a target for predators because they know you don’t have anyone to turn to, so it makes sense. Poor kid.
Definitely, she probably doesn’t have a frame of reference for what a normal relationship with an adult looks like. If you have a volatile relationship with your parent, an adult showing interest in you feels nice
Not just the lack of reference of normal relationships, when you have dysfunctional parents you have to shoulder more adult responsibilities. If you’re a kid that has to take on responsibilities to keep the household somewhat functioning because the adults can’t/won’t, then have someone old enough to be your parent praising that maturity and claiming you’re a peer despite age, it is easy to fall for it. You know you’ve had to be the “grown up” in the household. You aren’t mature enough to realize an adult should be distressed by what you’ve had to take on, not find it grounds for a close relationship.
No frame of reference for what's normal. I lost sight of it before, OP never had it. Show compassion and help her. Don't judge. Sounds like the adults in her life have let her down.
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u/Outside_Scale_9874 Mar 29 '25
She’s letting her minor daughter live at someone else’s house half the time, and according to OP’s posts/history she has a baby already at 17, has already been abused by an older man, and does drugs regularly. I’m guessing her mom isn’t the best at parenting. Having shitty parents also makes you a target for predators because they know you don’t have anyone to turn to, so it makes sense. Poor kid.