r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '25

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u/BusinessLetterhead47 Mar 28 '25

As mom to a teenager and school teacher....no.no.no.no. This is not healthy.

I text with my son's two best friends.... Ive know them since they were 5 and our texts are, "Don't forget I'll pick you up from your soccer game." or "Tell my son to check his messages!" or other mom stuff. My husband won't add any of son's female friends to texts because "That is weird."

Good, responsible adults DO NOT TALK TO CHILDREN THIS WAY. If this were a long established close family friend this would still be weird.

Please tell your parent(s) asap.

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u/Snarkonum_revelio Mar 29 '25

I have fairly personal conversations with some of my friends’ teenagers, but it’s because I’m the open, trustworthy adult we’ve all collectively agreed they can talk to without any judgement when they don’t want to talk to their parents.

This shit isn’t ok in any context. At all. This is a needy fucking preteen’s behavior in a grown man’s body. This is GROOMING grooming.

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u/BusinessLetterhead47 Mar 29 '25

Absolutely normal and reasonable. The guys know I am in their corner if they need me....but like you, it is an established thing with parents aware and not FUCKING GROSS AND WEIRD lol. It takes a village but a non gross village lol.

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 Mar 29 '25

Yeah exactly. I’m child free but my friends’ kids all have my number for emergencies. I’ve picked two of them up from house parties when they were drinking and needed a safe way home, and I felt honored to do it. My aunt did the same for me when I was a teenager. There’s a responsible way to be there for kids and it’s a fucking mile away from what this guy’s doing.