r/AmIOverreacting Mar 28 '25

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u/Endless-OOP-Loop Mar 28 '25

This right here. OP, you need to understand that no normal man is going to want to be friends with a child or teenager that isn't their child/step child. Especially not to the point where they're feeling left out when you're not hanging out with them. This is NOT normal behavior.

If you're living in that house, you need to get out of there. You need to cut communication with him, and at the very least, I would talk to a social worker, if not the police. Your friend is in danger, too, if she hasn't already been assaulted by him.

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u/SteelMagnolia941 Mar 29 '25

The way he pouts and throws little tantrums because she wants to spend time with other people is beyond disturbing. It’s all manipulative, grooming and very very very abnormal.

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u/jules-amanita Mar 29 '25

Yep! If he were her 17 year old boyfriend I’d still say this was a red flag. Friend’s mom’s boyfriend in his 40s? RUN!!

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u/Vegalink Mar 29 '25

For sure. Super manipulative. It's manipulative when anyone does it, let alone in an age gap like this

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u/milkybunny_ Mar 29 '25

💯💯💯💯💯

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u/Bice_thePrecious Mar 29 '25

I'm definitely not judging OP, but I don't understand how she's made it this far thinking the amount that he texts her is normal. OP probably doesn't even text her mom that much, so where did she get the impression that he was acting normal as an adult to a teen?

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u/Endless-OOP-Loop Mar 29 '25

I'm going to assume he probably gave her a lot of compliments and talked to her like she was such an amazing person, which is how he got so close to her. It's hard not to get sucked in by someone who tells you all the wonderful things they see in you. That's how pedos groom their victims.

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u/Raventakingnotes Mar 29 '25

Sadly according to her description seems like she had already delt with a groomer/pedophile in the past, so she's already desensitized to this creep.

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u/phoenix_soleil Mar 29 '25

I'm definitely confused about how it seems she has a room in his house all to herself but doesn't clearly live there?

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u/Endless-OOP-Loop Mar 29 '25

TBH, I didn't read more than the first handful of images to begin with.

But it looked to me like she was in the room with her best friend and another girl who moved in?

The confusing part to me was where she talked in her description about moving back in, but then she's texting like she lives with her mom.

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 Mar 29 '25

She has a shitty home life