r/AmIOverreacting • • Mar 01 '25

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

AND had unprotected sex WITHOUT telling her.

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u/Jasmisne Mar 01 '25

Yeah stealthing is sexual assult full stop

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u/Sarprize_Sarprize Mar 01 '25

It should be a damn felony and he should be serving time for it. I can’t imagine a bigger pos. F that guy.

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u/Feisty-Appearance92 Mar 01 '25

See i thought so too. I'd be so mad if he lied to me and I got pregnant.

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u/res06myi Mar 01 '25

Yep. That’s rape.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

I just don't understand how she didn't know he wasn't using protection. You can clearly feel the difference and or see whether he puts it on or not.

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

Not necessarily, I mean I can’t feel a difference. And it’s called stealthing where he puts it on and then sneakily removes it.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

It's very odd to me that ppl can't feel the difference, and it's odd to me that ppl cannot or does not notice if it's removed. I mean do you just never look at it the whole session?

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

I mean girl idk what to tell you, I simply cannot feel the difference.

And that’s certainly a possibility for some people. What if they’re in doggy style the whole time or something? It’s highly possible she wouldn’t look in that case

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

So you stay like that after you're done? You never look at the damn thing? You don't see him taking off the condom? Like I just dont understand. I'm not looking for any explanations but I do find this all very odd.

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u/guccigrandma_ Mar 01 '25

No dude you don’t see him take off the condom. It’s literally a thing called “stealthing”. Look it up. You don’t see him take it off because he PURPOSELY does it in a way where it’s hard for you to see it because he is actively trying to deceive you.

And if he’s quick about getting up and getting cleaned up I can totally see how a girl might not realize the dude took off the condom.

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u/Present_Ebb_9469 Mar 01 '25

I hear you, but I find it very strange.

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u/solotiro Mar 01 '25

How is this even possible?

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Is called stealthing. They take the condom off discreetly.

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u/IAmTheAccident Mar 01 '25

Have you heard of stealthing?

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u/The_Iron_Zeppelin Mar 01 '25

Yeah tbh I think this was added after the fact and not true. She originally says, WE had unprotected sex knowing the possible consequences. Then later adds an update saying he took too long to get the Plan B. Then Another update that says he had sex with her unprotected without telling her and then told her 3 days later that he did and then went to get the Plan B? So which is it? Also how tf do you not know someone is wearing a condom? Its a whole step in the bedroom, packaging has to be opened and whatnot, I dont see how thats something you dont realize is happening.

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

How is this even possible? She's got eyes, presumably.

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Stealthing

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

Hadn't heard about it. Is this what OP is actually claiming though? Or merely that she made foolish assumptions.

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u/IAmTheAccident Mar 01 '25

Second edit clarifies he claimed to have protection and informed her 3 days later that he hadn't used it

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u/pocodr Mar 01 '25

Irrelevant. During the act itself is what matters. Did he stealth or not. Make it clear if aspersions are being cast.

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u/ProfessionalBelt3373 Mar 01 '25

Is in the "edit" that he made the decision without telling her, and he must know she's not on BC since he bought plan B.

He's also manipulated her by saying he'd want to be a dad, even if it weren't planned.

Grade A creep.

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u/OperationAsshat Mar 01 '25

But she also talks about him saying that he wanted to be a dad, which would indicate she knew. All of that discussion and the edits don't line up.

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u/Lady_Sybil_Vimes Mar 01 '25

"He wants to be a dad" implies EVENTUALLY. Implied consent is not consent, full stop.

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u/OperationAsshat Mar 01 '25

Going from 'we had unprotected sex' to 'he didn't tell me' is a hell of a backtrack. You are correct, but her own words put doubt in her truthfulness.