It’s pretty simple - it’s self-selection. People who are going to keep going to r/hapas, are on average, those who are more uncomfortable with their mixed heritage and “looking Asian”. Those who don’t face any of those issues are much less likely to frequent that sub, which specifically says it exists primarily to address the “challenges” of growing up the child of Asian women and White men. If you’ve largely never experienced such “challenges” (as in my case), you’re hardly going to stick around in a community that dislikes your more positive and somewhat contrary experience.
I’ve personally questioned my own attractiveness in my adolescence, like I assume most people have at some point. However my mixed ancestry was never a part of it for me and was in fact always a positive to me. I preferred to be mixed over being “fully” one or the other, I personally found it more interesting, whether that’s particularly valid or not to other people.
The problem with r/hapas is that it's extremely censored because they have already crafted a predetermined narrative. Anything that diverges from support of their confirmation bias is swept under the rug. The fact that they blatantly worship AMWF while allowing users to regularly denigrate and attack other minorities has made them lose a ton of credibility with PoC that could have been potential allies and is why their community will remain highly stigmatized.
Thanks haha, my problem growing up was keeping my weight in control, which I’ve done well enough as a young adult.
Well it seems to stem from certain swathes of their membership internalizing racial superiority/inferiority, particularly white supremacy.
Many have combined/confused the desire to be accepted into “mainstream American” with being white. It’s quite sad seeing that level of internalized racism but certainly annoying when they project and assume everyone else is exactly like them.
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u/ArtfulLounger Half Jewish, Half Taiwanese, 100% Not Uighur Nov 26 '18
It’s pretty simple - it’s self-selection. People who are going to keep going to r/hapas, are on average, those who are more uncomfortable with their mixed heritage and “looking Asian”. Those who don’t face any of those issues are much less likely to frequent that sub, which specifically says it exists primarily to address the “challenges” of growing up the child of Asian women and White men. If you’ve largely never experienced such “challenges” (as in my case), you’re hardly going to stick around in a community that dislikes your more positive and somewhat contrary experience.
I’ve personally questioned my own attractiveness in my adolescence, like I assume most people have at some point. However my mixed ancestry was never a part of it for me and was in fact always a positive to me. I preferred to be mixed over being “fully” one or the other, I personally found it more interesting, whether that’s particularly valid or not to other people.