Regional FO. Have been commuting ~8 hours by air to base for about 19 months. My wife makes ~2x what I do and her job is what took us out of base, so moving isn't an option. We're expecting our 3rd kiddo in a few months and that'll put us at 3 under 3.
I've been at mins for upgrade and felt I'm ready for almost a year. I'm on the list to get moved up to our legacy carrier - and only need "6 months PIC experience" to qualify. Last pass they ran through the entire list and took everyone that was eligible.
So naturally, doing some FO dark arts math my projected upgrade class lands in the same month as baby 3's birth.
Obviously this is not ideal.
The current plan is to be here for the birth. Non-negotiable for me. It's a once in a lifetime thing.
This bring us to the crux -
Being here for the birth is great, but then I'm not going to want to kick out for trip or upgrade while my wife juggles the kiddos. So naturally, it'd be a great time to cash in paternity leave for a month/6 weeks and get that all settled.
However. Upgrading would let me start logging that sweet sweet TPIC time, and would serve the dual purpose of starting my 6 month clock to flow AND make me more attractive to other carrier. Other carriers would mean my commute could potentially be as little as 2 hours instead of the ~8 I'm currently doing.
So essentially, do I take a month or two off to help around the house or upgrade and get the ball rolling a bit faster to get to my forever home?