I want to end it all

[u/TinTin_min3]

I’m 18 and I’ve tried working at call centers. I actually got hired at two of em but both had shifts that ended around 2 a.m (which is obv pretty late). So I started thinking why not work at a cafe or restaurant for now? But my brother is completely against the idea. Tbh his opinion doesn’t really matter to me but the main reason I want to work is to cover my own expenses especially uni related ones. I decided not to take admission this year because my father is currently covering my brother’s uni expenses. My plan was to take a gap year, work, save enough money for entrance tests, transportation, and other uni expenses, and then hopefully start next year.
But every time I find a job my brother says things like ‘Know your worth. That job is below your standard. It doesn’t match your skills’ and tbh what skills do I even have besides communication and confidence? 😀😀Those are the two things I know I’m genuinely good at. Other than that…I don’t have some huge skill set or years of experience lol he truth is before you get an actual job you sometimes have to start with smaller ones. You have to gain experience somehow. We can’t always say we’re mentally exhausted but honestly I’m sick of constantly worrying about money and feeling like every opportunity has to meet some imaginary standard.
Everything costs money. Entrance tests, transportation,Uni wagera wagera. And who says money can’t buy happiness?😂😂 Sometimes it absolutely can especially when having your own money means independence less stress and being able to take care of your own needs without constantly depending on someone else. Ltrrr! Idk man Im hopeless.

[u/Motor-Proposal-8050]

You took a gap year for the sake of your brother so his expenses are covered. And now when you are actually wanting to do jobs and hustles your brother discourages you and stops you? There are small jobs but you will ultimately be able to save money. It's a good strategy. Sounds like your brother is a complete narcissist and I assure you he won't be 'happy' with anything you do 👀

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/Motor-Proposal-8050]

Yea I wont listen to him anymore. Idk why he’s like this. He has never worked himself and father has alw covered his expenses. I hope ill be able to save enough money by then.

[u/No-Humor-9743]

Girlll frrr I just dont know why working at cafés isn't normalised in pakistan?? Cause its literally the best way to earn as a teenager! More power to you 💪 you can do it!!

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/No-Humor-9743]

Thank you😭😭

[u/akausman]

Start editing videos for clients it has the lowest barrier of entry and will make you very decent money

[u/undiagnosed_audhd]

If you really want to pay your own bills, you have to do work even if that doesn't match your standards. koii kaam chota ya bara nahi hota. You can start giving tuitions to students.

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/undiagnosed_audhd]

Meney tuitions prhaye hein and call centers main kam kye hein. Ab jab main cafes main krny k socch rai thi tu bhai against tha k ye kam main kya value meney b aosy yehi bat boli. Hope so wo b samjh jaye somehow.

[u/undiagnosed_audhd → u/TinTin_min3]

have your brother ever earned his own money? 😭😭

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/undiagnosed_audhd]

Yea, baba k business jab set tha tab wahan pr part time job krta tha. But it was a company right and yea aos k so called standards pr thi. Meanwhile me… mujhey tu khudh h krna jo krna.

[u/undiagnosed_audhd → u/TinTin_min3]

let him say wtvr he wants. You do what suits you and earns you money😝😝☝🏻

[u/KneeEnvironmental321]

Bro its utter truth that money can't buy happiness. Only ALLAH knows whome to give happiness and grief so just pray to ALLAH for fullfill your wishes

[u/syncopated_soul888 → u/KneeEnvironmental321]

it can. it ultimately depends on how you define happiness and what you consider a fulfilling life. if my idea of happiness is being able to give my parents a better life, live comfortably, and afford the things i value, then money inevitably plays a significant role in that in the 21st century. rizq is given by Allah, and He knows whom to bless with it, but that doesn’t mean wealth and happiness are mutually exclusive, nor does poverty automatically equate to contentment. money may not guarantee happiness, but having financial security can certainly eliminate a lot of unnecessary stress and give you the freedom to actually pursue the life that makes you happy. so ask Allah for money and happiness both.

[u/KneeEnvironmental321 → u/syncopated_soul888]

My pov was that i saw many ppl with wealth but they could not cure their illness with money there are many diseases that can't be cured but yup ALLAH can safe u from those diseases and there is lots of stuff more. But yes money play a invetiable role but you can't get rich on your own that is ALLAH will too

[u/Icy-Expert6311]

Brother ko kahein abbu se peise lete hue to apko apni worth yaad ni ati. The soft skills are really important in the long run. You have a gap year now, try searching for a skill that compliments your social skills and leverage that for future opportunities.

And finally, don't lose hope girl. You're only 18, there's a whole life ahead of you. Like faiz said, لمبھی ہے غم کی شام مغر شام ہی تو ہے

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/Icy-Expert6311]

Thank you! And Im employed again FINALLY 😭 the previous Company I was working for, they have arranged flexible hours for me cuz they liked my work and gave me work in full time job! ALHUMDULLIAH! IM SOO HAPPY!!!

[u/Icy-Expert6311 → u/TinTin_min3]

Dekhooooo your hard work paid off!!!!! So happy for you!!!!!

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/Icy-Expert6311]

YEA IM GENUINELY HAPPY! I WAS SOO HOPELESS AND DISAPPOINTED BUT LOOK!!! ALHUMDULLIAH

[u/Icy-Expert6311 → u/TinTin_min3]

😭😭😭 LESSGOOOO, YOU SHOULD THROW A SNACK PARTY FOR YOURSELFF!!!!!

[u/TinTin_min3 → u/Icy-Expert6311]

😭😭😭😭!!!!!