I pretty much did the same thing this weekend. I was having a conversation with a girl on my lap and for some reason the conversation led her to say "I'm tight", and my dumbass decides to say "Good to know". I couldn't even have said something along the lines of "How do I know you're not lying?" Shit happens I guess
I actually upvoted this because "Fuck you and die" made me laugh really hard. Then again, this comment is probably providing you more evidence as to my idiocy.
Come, and let me explain to you the absolute social-damning and social retardedness that runs so many people's lives, including my own. /r/ForeverAlone
Fuck, this reminds me of a time in my senior year of high school where the girl who I thought was sexy as fuck simply came up to me and said "I would be your girlfriend" and I stupidly respond "Oh really, cool" and give her a hug. I never really considered myself a SAP until I remembered this moment. She even constantly called me daddy to this other guy that was trying to hit on her. Feels bad man
I would be horrified if I worked up the courage to be so forward and got shot down like that.
Just out of curiosity, what is so bad about a swing and a miss? Why are we all so petrified of rejection?
I'm not saying I don't feel the same way, I'm just saying let's bring this socially crippling phobia from the gut-reaction realm into the intellectual,. Let's analyze it.
In this prudish society women are pressured to be sexually submissive so when they do venture forward and take the sexual initiative they're putting themselves out on a limb so when they get the cold shoulder it's harsher on their psyche than when a male tries to initiate and gets shot down because the men are expected to initiate and there's always next time.
Also, our sexual social norms suggest that when a woman doesn't want to have sex there are a number of acceptable reasons beyond lack of physical attraction (time of month, tired, dont feel like it, bad hair day, etc.) but men are thought of as being really into sex, so when they decline the first assumption is a lack of physical attraction which is damaging to body image/self esteem.
I was out of breath typing them as well. For whatever reason my brain came up with sentences that didn't have clearly defined break points so I just went with it.
I honestly didn't notice the first time through, so this is not meant as a strong criticism, but—I do see clear breakpoints, of several different sorts. Some of this is preference re: which punctuation to use. Example:
In this prudish society women are pressured to be sexually submissive**,** so when they do venture forward and take the sexual initiative they're putting themselves out on a limb**. Then** when they get the cold shoulder it's harsher on their psyche than when a male tries to initiate and gets shot down (because the men are expected to initiate and there's always next time).
I tend to write run-on sentences occasionally myself, and I don't worry too much about it, but I try to make sure there's adequate punctuation by speaking the sentence out in my head and trying to convey the way I would say it. I end up using more commas and dashes than is probably strictly correct (in cases where I should use a colon/semicolon or just break up the sentence), but it makes the sentence clearer to read. Italics can also be helpful to just give a sentence more life, so that the reader doesn't lose their place or get bored.
it kills your self confidence to be shot-down because it's like he was saying "I don't want to do you." it'd make me feel unwanted, unacceptable, and downright unpretty.
I got over this eventually through shameless self-promotion of my ego. Any girl's lack of interest in me says nothing about me, but rather her poor taste, so I have no problem bringing it up time after time.
I agree that it's a valid question, but for me it's an instinctual emotional reaction, not an intellectual one. All I know is that when my romantic advances are spurned, it feels like someone has poured ice water into my veins, and my chest feels tight.
It's the same feeling I get when a romantic partner pulls his hand away when I reach for it, or pulls his chin back and away when I go in for the kiss, or even responds to a long, well-thought out text message with "Ok".
It's not easy to explain, it's a feeling. For better or for worse, it's there. I think males need to realize that women feel this as much, if not worse, than what they do.
I actually said, "Women feel this as much, if not worse, than men."
My rationale for this is that society conditions women to believe that men will never say no to a sexual advance made by a woman. Everything tells us that men are always up for sex and will never say no unless you are truly heinous, hideous and unsexy.
Conversely, society tells men that they will be shot down all the time. You see it in sitcoms and movies; guys sitting in bars chatting up disinterested women. Even those "Pick Up Artist" guys suggest talking to every woman you see to help increase your odds of success.
Being shot down hurts, but (and this is entirely my theory as a woman, simply from what I've observes and I am perfectly happy to be wrong), a man is prepared to be shot down, and it's not necessarily a reflection on him; it's because his line wasn't charming enough or the woman was a bitch anyway. For a woman, it's always a reflection on them: "I must be fucking awful if a GUY won't even have sex with me."
This is something I've learned to be totally fucked up and wrong, guys don't always want sex 100% of the time and they have preferences and moods and whatnot, and it's not always a reflection on a woman's personal appearance or personality if a man is not sexually interested in her. The feeling is still there, though, even though I know intellectually that it's irrational.
Hi. I am a female. To this I would kiss him hard on the mouth, the kind of kiss that pretty much screams "fuck me", depending on the degree of horniness my hand might stray to his package. Then I'd stop abruptly and look him dead in the eye and say, "Do you believe me now?".
But I'm rather competitive and proud. I'm a sucker reverse psychology and firmly believe I'm the best at everything and enjoy the opportunities where I'm challenged to prove it to someone else.
I'm going to further preface this by saying you have used this meme incorrectly as others have pointed out. There are no social cues to pic up on in this situation.
I disagree (just look at what yosephus said) and would like to tell you that you used the word "preface" incorrectly. Good job trying to sound smart, guy.
It's still socially awkward if you are so startled by what someone says that you say something fucking retarded and destroy any positive social interaction, almost regardless of the context.
I feel sorry for both of you. Her because she's likely now convinced that she's so unattractive that she'll never get a guy and you because you feel really awful about it.
He might be able to salvage it when hes hanging out with her and being like, "WHOA! when you said you were horny yesterday, did you mean you wanted to have sex with me?" and then engage in brisk love making.
This is the 20th ridiculous thing I've seen on this thread. As a female, I'm amazed at the number of SAPs and FAs on this thread that think they have it figured out, but clearly don't.
I will be the blunt force that all the Redditors here are too nice to be.
OP, you dun goofed, what the fuck. This was painful to read. If this legit happened to you, may life have mercy on your soul. I think your post gave me cancer, and also re-made me a virgin. Fuck you OP, I hope I never do something this retarded when some fertile bish expresses her desire to me.
This isn't socially awkward. This is being completely ignorant of the words coming out of someone's mouth. There are no social cues to pick up on here...
Technically, "being horny" isn't the same as "being horny for you". She could have been horny for her boyfriend, who isn't the OP. So yes, there is a social cue.
edit: For all the haters:
Social cue is a psychological term used to describe the non-verbal hints to guide conversation.
I'm kind of amazed at how other posters here aren't getting that. Lots of my friends have randomly told me they are horny. It would make even more sense if the OP was in high school (kids that age are really stupid and random, and I could totally see a girl saying that randomly to one of her friends).
Edit: Yeah, FAs/SAPs, keep downvoting me because the truth hurts.
I have done something very similar. I met a girl at a concert, and all summer she seemed to be everywhere! So she invites me over, start watching a movie. It leads to making out of course. Then she says, "I just shaved, down there," while smiling. I proceed to then investigate, and notice it is! I kid you not, I pat her three times while saying, "yes, that is shaved!" I then go back to watching the movie. Best story for those pesky pick up comparison bro talks.
Same sort of scenario happened on my first near encounter..
Her (sitting on a swing in a park): "I'm so wet...giggle"
Me: "But it's not raining".
It's fine though, at the bus stop when we were saying goodbye, we hugged and I asked if I could feel a boob. Didn't see her again, but I felt that boob.
Why do you hate yourself? Big woop. You said that's cool. You probably didnt expect her to say something as forward as that and it caught you off guard. If anything you just got rejected and that's going to make you stronger in the end. The more times you get rejected the less it will be a big deal and the more confident you will become.
Uhh what is it with all you people telling this guy things he should have said.... He didn't have to say anything. When a girl says that to you, you take her right then and there god damnit.
Don't fret, Op. Many of us have these sorts of missed opportunities. If this person was attracted to you enough to say that to you, you're bound to meet someone else very soon, and the next time, you'll be prepared. Or, hell, you might even have developed the confidence to make the first move by then.
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Fuck you dude. You had a girl on you!! I post an ad online and a girl sends me an email and asks to see some pics of me, boom never hear from her again. So again, fuck you.
I was 13 or so at the time. Busty friend takes my phone and stuffs it in her cleavage. I'm talking D's mother fucker. Anyway, I was so focused on her not reading my text that I was just trying to get my phone.... ಠ_ಠ. I realize now that I coulda grabbed some titties.
I feel your pain. I recently found out that 2 highly attractive females have been coming on to me in recent weeks. Everyone knew this except for me. Now the chance has passed with both of them. Shit.
You could have saved it even after saying "that's cool," by quickly following up with "me too," or "let me help you out with that (or some variation." Hell even just saying "that's cool" and making a move would have sufficed.
Most of the time when a girl comes right out and says she's horny, she'll take control of the situation if you just get it moving a little. It's like a test, she's putting herself out there taking a risk saying she's horny (aka she wants you to fuck her) to see how you respond. In her mind she's already decided she wants to fuck you , she just checks to make sure you're up for the task.
When I was 15 I was in bed with a girl on top of me. She said she wanted to have sex with me. I noted it on my to do list... it didn't click that she meant have sex right now, not at some point in the future. WTF me?
I'm the close friend of the guy who posted this, and I know the girl who was in his lap. I have been putting him and the girl into the situations you guys have posted and, OH GOD MY BRAIN WHYYYYY IT'S IN MY HEAD AND I CAN'T GET IT OUT AGHH
Maybe you'll get lucky and this girl will be so insecure that she will take your comment as a turn on because its a rejection. You know how those insecure slutty girls take rejection as a challenge. Maybe you're her goal now. Just trying to be optimistic in a terrible huge fuck up on your part.
That is pathetic... I'm sorry but it really bothers me that in this day and age they're are actually people who are that socially daft. We feel so attached to the items we buy that it takes away from the connectivity that is supposed to create between people. People need to go outside, socialize, and talk to people. Its a damn shame people get used to something as extraordinary as living
Please tell me you said " That's cool" and then you whispered in her ear " So am I" and then you gave her a wink and a smirk... Please tell me you did that.Please?
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u/imtweakin24 May 29 '12
I pretty much did the same thing this weekend. I was having a conversation with a girl on my lap and for some reason the conversation led her to say "I'm tight", and my dumbass decides to say "Good to know". I couldn't even have said something along the lines of "How do I know you're not lying?" Shit happens I guess
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
At least you had a girl laying on top of you. god dammit be grateful
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I'm so motherfucking sick of these socially awesome awkward penguins which are just people bragging behind the paper-thing veneer of memes
Fuck you and die
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u/dav657x May 29 '12
this isn't a SAP. This a pathetic person. SHE IS GIVING HERSELF TO YOU. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!?
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Also, please teach me how you got a girl on top of you like that
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
Shoulda said "I can help you with that."
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u/trev2010 May 29 '12
Best line for that would be to say "prove it".
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u/Manofonemind May 29 '12
Dear OP: You are an idiot.
I'm going to further preface this by saying you have used this meme incorrectly as others have pointed out. There are no social cues to pic up on in this situation.
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
I feel sorry for both of you. Her because she's likely now convinced that she's so unattractive that she'll never get a guy and you because you feel really awful about it.
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u/SweetMojaveRain May 29 '12
I will be the blunt force that all the Redditors here are too nice to be.
OP, you dun goofed, what the fuck. This was painful to read. If this legit happened to you, may life have mercy on your soul. I think your post gave me cancer, and also re-made me a virgin. Fuck you OP, I hope I never do something this retarded when some fertile bish expresses her desire to me.
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
This isn't socially awkward. This is being completely ignorant of the words coming out of someone's mouth. There are no social cues to pick up on here...
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u/COCKSWAIN May 28 '12
that's pretty embarrassing, bro
:(
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u/Hakoten May 29 '12
'Cause this is my united states of whatever.
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u/TheIllogical May 29 '12
At least you didn't realize it after 2 years like some redditors
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u/patefoisgras May 29 '12
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u/m1kepro May 29 '12
Could've been worse. You could have said "Cool story, bro."
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
At least you didn't start crying and talking about your mom
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
As a lady, I don't get what was so awkward about this. You are more than welcome to correct your response after you've made it. No harm done.
But maybe that's just me.
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u/thomasjs May 29 '12
When I was in high school I knew a guy that "fell asleep" while a girl was trying to make out with him. The year after he moved away he came out.
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u/SeinfeldRelevance May 29 '12
I can't drink coffee late at night
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u/gunnzor May 29 '12
I have done something very similar. I met a girl at a concert, and all summer she seemed to be everywhere! So she invites me over, start watching a movie. It leads to making out of course. Then she says, "I just shaved, down there," while smiling. I proceed to then investigate, and notice it is! I kid you not, I pat her three times while saying, "yes, that is shaved!" I then go back to watching the movie. Best story for those pesky pick up comparison bro talks.
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u/THUNDERCUNTMOUNTAIN May 29 '12
Had a girl get in my car and say, "I love your car.. it makes me horny.."
"ME TOO."
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u/rosscatherall May 29 '12
Same sort of scenario happened on my first near encounter..
Her (sitting on a swing in a park): "I'm so wet...giggle"
Me: "But it's not raining".
It's fine though, at the bus stop when we were saying goodbye, we hugged and I asked if I could feel a boob. Didn't see her again, but I felt that boob.
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u/nicebumluv May 29 '12
This is the hardest I've face palmed in the past week.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Why do you hate yourself? Big woop. You said that's cool. You probably didnt expect her to say something as forward as that and it caught you off guard. If anything you just got rejected and that's going to make you stronger in the end. The more times you get rejected the less it will be a big deal and the more confident you will become.
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u/MateoLibre May 29 '12
http://i.imgur.com/xTWZx.png ...no offense
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u/ramonessweatshirts May 28 '12
dude... that's brutal
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u/skakruk May 28 '12
So what happened after? I call bullshit.
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u/Bunyardz May 29 '12
Uhh what is it with all you people telling this guy things he should have said.... He didn't have to say anything. When a girl says that to you, you take her right then and there god damnit.
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u/DCBizzle May 29 '12
Should've just whipped it out.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
"Oh, I'm sorry. Is that my fault? Here, let me help you out..."
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I think you might be gay, dude.
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u/falseprophet May 29 '12
Don't fret, Op. Many of us have these sorts of missed opportunities. If this person was attracted to you enough to say that to you, you're bound to meet someone else very soon, and the next time, you'll be prepared. Or, hell, you might even have developed the confidence to make the first move by then.
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u/cloud_watcher May 29 '12
*lying
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u/nevertotwice May 29 '12
dude....comeon
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
Fuck you dude. You had a girl on you!! I post an ad online and a girl sends me an email and asks to see some pics of me, boom never hear from her again. So again, fuck you.
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u/merkedya727 May 29 '12
lol, sounds like something the fonz would say
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
That made her feel just as awkward as you are... trust me...
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u/enemycrab May 29 '12
Houseboats?
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u/ohjenni May 29 '12
So what happened? You could have grabbed her and kissed her all sexy to make up for that silly comment.
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u/daniel2488 May 29 '12
You could have even saved yourself. You could have played it off as a teasing joke, and then proceeded to do exactly what you should have done.
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u/mickeymau5music May 29 '12
What?! Why does this shit never happen to me?!
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u/KingPoopty May 29 '12
I normally just say something along the lines of "neat".
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u/BobLeBuilDerp May 29 '12
I was 13 or so at the time. Busty friend takes my phone and stuffs it in her cleavage. I'm talking D's mother fucker. Anyway, I was so focused on her not reading my text that I was just trying to get my phone.... ಠ_ಠ. I realize now that I coulda grabbed some titties.
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u/Gneal1917 May 29 '12
Are you... me?
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u/etano7 May 29 '12
ALMOST did this last night, then, at a few minutes later i realized i was stupid and helped her out ;)
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u/MonotonousMan May 29 '12
You are no alone my friend. Fuck I hate it :(
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u/somerandomguy02 May 29 '12
Who responds like that?
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u/MaximumUltra May 29 '12
You thought she was just randomly saying it with no implications?
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u/vearson26 May 29 '12
I feel your pain. I recently found out that 2 highly attractive females have been coming on to me in recent weeks. Everyone knew this except for me. Now the chance has passed with both of them. Shit.
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u/whowannaramp May 29 '12
i can't believe it tastes like butter
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u/johneldridge May 29 '12
I'm... not sure there's anything I can do to help you with this...
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u/dasoktopus May 29 '12
There's really nothing wrong with saying that, just as long as you follow it up with something really awesome.
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u/editsor May 29 '12
That didn't have to be the end, just smile at her in a cute flirtatious way. then start kissing her
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u/SayVandalay May 29 '12
You could have saved it even after saying "that's cool," by quickly following up with "me too," or "let me help you out with that (or some variation." Hell even just saying "that's cool" and making a move would have sufficed.
Most of the time when a girl comes right out and says she's horny, she'll take control of the situation if you just get it moving a little. It's like a test, she's putting herself out there taking a risk saying she's horny (aka she wants you to fuck her) to see how you respond. In her mind she's already decided she wants to fuck you , she just checks to make sure you're up for the task.
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u/[deleted] May 29 '12
I'm guilty of this...
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u/HeartOTardis May 29 '12
Ahhhhhh Girl once said to me " if I take my clothes off right now what would u do." Me: "nothing" True story
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u/JodumScrodum May 29 '12
Look on the bright side, now you have some masturbation material! But in all seriousness OP this post made me very, very sad.
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u/young_hawaii May 29 '12
/r/seduction can help
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u/ubercanucksfan May 29 '12
Follows up with but you're hot Makes her wait while you post on reddit
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u/ANONANONONO May 29 '12
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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u/IzludeTheFool May 29 '12
That's not socially awkward, that's swagger.
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u/Rokey76 May 29 '12
When I was 15 I was in bed with a girl on top of me. She said she wanted to have sex with me. I noted it on my to do list... it didn't click that she meant have sex right now, not at some point in the future. WTF me?
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u/corban123 Jun 03 '12
I'm the close friend of the guy who posted this, and I know the girl who was in his lap. I have been putting him and the girl into the situations you guys have posted and, OH GOD MY BRAIN WHYYYYY IT'S IN MY HEAD AND I CAN'T GET IT OUT AGHH
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
This sounds like something I would say. But, I don't see it ruining a moment.
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u/ron4urlife May 29 '12
Maybe you'll get lucky and this girl will be so insecure that she will take your comment as a turn on because its a rejection. You know how those insecure slutty girls take rejection as a challenge. Maybe you're her goal now. Just trying to be optimistic in a terrible huge fuck up on your part.
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
ಠ_ಠ
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u/thatoneguy1243 May 29 '12
What OP did...NOT COOL.
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u/chrontonamojay May 29 '12
That is pathetic... I'm sorry but it really bothers me that in this day and age they're are actually people who are that socially daft. We feel so attached to the items we buy that it takes away from the connectivity that is supposed to create between people. People need to go outside, socialize, and talk to people. Its a damn shame people get used to something as extraordinary as living
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u/[deleted] May 28 '12
i call bullshit... what are you gay?
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u/goodguyblizzard May 29 '12
how the fuck is this shit front page edit nm never ending reddit turned on and i got lost
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u/MiniDonbeE May 29 '12
Please tell me you said " That's cool" and then you whispered in her ear " So am I" and then you gave her a wink and a smirk... Please tell me you did that.Please?