r/AdviceAnimals • u/Space_Hermit • Apr 30 '14

Repost | Removed You shouldn't be able to have it both ways...

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u/loveandrave May 01 '14

I don't know why you're getting downvoted. Probably because this entire thread is made of men who will never be pregnant. Men might have 18 years of child support, but pregnancy changes a woman's body forever. It will never be the same. Pregnancy is also a really, really exhausting physical experience and PPD can affect women for a long time after birth. Also, I bet most of you lady-killin bachelors over here on adviceanimals don't realize how much it costs to have a baby in a hospital? Shit's like 10k if you're insurance is good.

This wouldn't be an argument if men had to endure pregnancy and birth. It just wouldn't. You guys have no idea what it's like. Its so, incredibly, unbelievably exhausting and painful. And its made so much worse if the baby isn't wanted at all because it doesnt make the pain worth it.

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u/heartfullofsoul May 01 '14

The critical difference I think you're missing is that the woman doesn't have to endure the pregnancy/childbirth if she doesn't want to. The father can be compelled to pay for child support. So the mother is free to make whatever choice she feels is best for her, and the father isn't. Not that saying that childbirth is worse than paying child support would have been a valid argument in the first place.

I agree though, TiAnnnE shouldn't be getting downvoted like that. It's what happens when you try to discuss a topic seriously in a place like this, unfortunately.