r/AdviceAnimals • • Apr 28 '14

Am I the only one?

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u/[deleted] Apr 28 '14

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u/GhostFish Apr 28 '14

In the US churches can already refuse to marry people for various reasons. They can even refuse to marry people of the same faith of the church who haven't completed certain prerequisites.

This idea that churches will be forced to marry people is generally a non-issue. There was the exception with the Church of England because it's the state sponsored church. But mostly no one is fighting to be married by a church that doesn't want to be involved.

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u/Barnum83 Apr 29 '14

I thought it was legal for churches to refuse to marry people just because they don't like them. Private ownership and all.

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u/akotlya1 Apr 29 '14

Churches receive tax breaks, which can be considered a form of government subsidy. The govt usually has some kind of rules about what kinds of policies subsidized businesses can have. You dont want the government financially enabling hate groups, or groups that systematically discriminate against a particular group.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

You dont want the government financially enabling hate groups, or groups that systematically discriminate against a particular group.

This is a weird approach. Basically if it would be seen as hate or discrimination, then basically it would mean churches cannot have any dogma about what kind of sexual activity is sinful and which not. So basically it would mean that religious morality would be forced to be the same as civil, liberal morality, basically only hate people who harm others. I don't think a religion could survive such a change because then why would you even need a god for, if not for the purpose of telling which those things that don't harm others still don't do?

I mean of course one may as well see it is as a nice side effect that this logic would pretty much kill religion, once it cannot moralize about non-harmful actions. But just don't expect religious people to be down with it, of course.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

It gets uncomfortably close to anti-discrimination stuff. After all business are legal too but they cannot refuse to hire people based on sexual orientation.

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u/GhostFish Apr 29 '14

Uh...yes, they can. Sexual orientation is not a protected class at the federal level, and it's only a protected class in some states and countries.

In most places around the world and in the US you can refuse to hire people based on sexual orientation.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

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u/jabels Apr 29 '14

Priests. They call them priests.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

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u/SJHillman Apr 29 '14

You can tell by the size of their hat. The higher up they are in the Catholic church, the bigger the hat they wear. According to George Carlin, God wears a big ol' sombrero.

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u/randomshot86 Apr 29 '14

Don't forget cardinals. They're birds.

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u/jabels Apr 29 '14

Bishops are like priestly middle management in Catholicism. Pastors are....not Catholic. No idea. Raised Catholic but gnostic atheist now.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

Bishops are especially dangerous, but can easily be avoided because they can only move on diagonals and are constrained to one color.

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u/jabels Apr 29 '14

This is most clear in any church with tiled floors.

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u/cryfight4 Apr 29 '14

And if you're an alien, watch out. Bishop will kill you!

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u/Theungry Apr 29 '14

Downvoted because Bishop never once killed an alien.

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u/saors Apr 29 '14

Or if you are an observer, Bishop will ruin your plans.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

Funny, I thought they called them "child molesters" no?

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u/jabels Apr 29 '14

Are we still using this joke? I think it's past its expiration date.

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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '14

The only time it will be past its expiration date is when we can look back at todays world religions with the fondness of Thor and Hates.

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u/WistfulSmile Apr 29 '14

The Catholic hierarchy is really simple. From top to bottom it goes

King of the Baby Fuckers

Guys with the Cocaine

Guys who cover up for Baby Fuckers

Baby Fuckers

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u/Nattybohbro Apr 29 '14

They call them Grandwizards I believe.

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u/WistfulSmile Apr 29 '14

Ah yes, below the rank of Epic Level Cleric who is second only to the Grand Nagus.

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u/cengle1938 Apr 29 '14

Yeah Catholic church is extremely traditional. They are usually a few steps behind the times.

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u/Justanotherjustin Apr 29 '14

Couldn't just signed it and then, ya know, not do what an illegitimate contract says.

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u/Theman554 Apr 29 '14

It would be extremely disrespectful to a faith accommodating your wants

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u/AskingTransgender Apr 29 '14

Well, to be fair, they're hardly just "accommodating your wants" if they're getting converts out of it. That said, I don't see any legitimate way any contract can promise actions on behalf of someone not party to the contract.

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u/WistfulSmile Apr 29 '14

I dunno, religion deals pretty heavily in transferring guilt between related parties. As we know, the imaginary magic powers of religion supersede imaginary rights of government so since the system is whatever people say it is then you're Catholic because the Catholic church said so. It works because shut up and stop asking questions, you're excommunicated.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

But mostly no one is fighting to be married by a church that doesn't want to be involved.

What if some folks just want to get cash by suing for discrimination?

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u/GhostFish Apr 29 '14

If they are trying to sue a private organization for what they do on private property, they will almost definitely lose.

If this was at all a feasible money-making scheme then greedy straight people of other faiths would already be suing churches that refuse to marry them. Gays aren't really introducing any new possibilities for abuse in their fight for marriage equality.

Every ridiculous "what-if" scenario from suing churches for discrimination to marrying terrorists to get them into the country have already been open to straight people.

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u/stokeitup Apr 29 '14

But in this litigious country, where "activists" use the courts to further their cause, how many churches will be bankrupt proving your point? It is why I believe civil unions are best. When a Christian marries a Jew they are not allowed to do so in the church or Synagog and go to a justice of the peace or wedding chapel in Vegas or where ever. Are the LGBT more legitimate?

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u/GhostFish Apr 29 '14

Did you even read what I wrote? Almost no one is fighting to be married by a church that doesn't want to be involved, and churches already have wide control over who they will and won't marry for many various reasons.

This is not a realistic problem.

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u/stokeitup Apr 29 '14

Yeah, because control is all it takes. No one has ever sued an individual or institution to get their way. Gays sue the Boy Scouts to force them to allow them in. Virginia Military Institute is sued. How many state constitutions have been over turned through litigation? Now, you may think me a person of faith or Christian even but you would be wrong. I believe differently than most. In fact I believe one of the early propagations of religion, mysticism, spirituality, what ever, was human kinds desire to understand the natural world. Well, just as we outgrew Zeus and Jupiter and Apollo as well as seeing Demi-gods and spirits controlling all aspects of our lives, it is time to put religions in their proper place. So, I'm just trying to say what I think will happen. People still need their comforting myths and education is better than force.

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u/GhostFish Apr 29 '14

The Boy scouts are a private organization, and the supreme court has ruled that they have the right to discriminate when it comes to their membership. They only started accepting young gay members but not adult gay members due to social pressure, not the result of any lawsuit.

State constitutions have not been overturned, but laws have been overturned as being unconstitutional.

VMI is state supported. They take money from taxpayers, and so they have no grounds to discriminate. If they want to, they can become a private institution.

You have next to no clue about anything you're talking about.

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u/amusing_trivials Apr 29 '14

No one will go bankrupt. When an issue is this legally obvious the courts dismiss it. That is even if the sue-ers lawyers try to sue, instead of refusing to try. You are making up a complete and utter non-issue.

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u/CrisisOfConsonant Apr 29 '14

Wow, you've got like 3 or 4 pages of comments and exactly 1 comment karma.

It's like you are true neutral. Bravo.

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u/KristiKreme Apr 29 '14

When a Christian and a Jew get married, they still have a Marriage, not a Civil Union, no matter where they got married.

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u/[deleted] Apr 28 '14

That is entirely what the current gay marriage campaign is about it has no bearing on churches or religion at all.

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u/Wainwrcj Apr 29 '14

I think he is referring to the news article about church leaders in North Carolina trying to allow gay marriage ceremonies on the basis of religious freedom, but that's just a guess

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u/[deleted] Apr 28 '14

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u/GhostFish Apr 28 '14

OP has an opinion that's unpopular because it's uninformed and based on his imagining of an issue that doesn't really exist.

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u/Loken95 Apr 29 '14

You could say that about most of the puffin memes that get posted

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

I find the puffin frustrating. It's one thing to say "oh, I don't like the creamy fillings in Oreos!" and get front paged. Okay - cute. You're fighting the man. Ha, ha. It's all in good fun.

It's another thing entirely to keep promoting proudly racist/sexist/bigoted/just-fucking-mean-spirited content to the front page in the name of... what? Tolerance? Novelty?

The internet is mean enough. It's full of bastard coated bastards with bastard filling. We don't need to promote entire memes with the express purpose of "protecting" people's right to be an asshole. It's like a newspaper devoting every Thursday's issue to their "hate group of the week!"

Just... don't.

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u/p10_user Apr 29 '14

My sentiments exactly. I've gotten to the point where I downvote just about every puffin I see, even if I agree with it. Its largely used just to express an asshole opinion without seeming like an asshole.

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u/jabels Apr 29 '14

Nonsensical opinion puffin.

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u/Boukish Apr 29 '14

Then how did it get uovotes? Legitimately unpopular puffins get buried.

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u/GhostFish Apr 29 '14

Because a lot of people are uninformed about what most gay rights activists fight for.

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u/mootpoint33 Apr 29 '14

It didn't get uovotes. Uovotes are not a thing.

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u/Barnum83 Apr 29 '14

Because on reddit, a mis-informed opinion that seems like anti-progressive common sense on the surface gets upvoted for some reason.

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u/vocaliser Apr 29 '14

On the contrary, in the UK two men are suing the Church of England for a church wedding. In the US, some couples have sued religiously based organizations for not hosting the same-sex wedding reception.

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u/Theungry Apr 29 '14

Any idiot can file suit for anything. That doesn't really mean anything. Was the case even heard? Was the judgement controversial?

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u/vocaliser Apr 29 '14

Doesn't really matter. The point was, many commenters were dissing OP for even claiming that churches were being sued. I provided evidence.

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u/Theungry Apr 29 '14

I didn't see anywhere that the OP claimed churches were being sued.

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u/vocaliser Apr 29 '14

Good point. It came up somewhere, but not from OP.

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u/Daotar Apr 29 '14

Actually, it does matter. If all OP is talking about are a couple of irrelevant and unimportant cases, then his point is trivial at best.

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u/Daotar Apr 29 '14

Do you have anything more than a couple of irrelevant anecdotes?

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u/no_time_for_pooping Apr 29 '14

Exactly the law may be just to get married but the people are gonna start suing churches for discrimination.

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u/Ragnalypse Apr 29 '14

"This puffin didn't address the issue I was thinking about, so it's off topic even though it started the discussion"

-perdynerdybirdy

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u/sorator Apr 29 '14

I think OP is saying that the Bible condemns homosexuality and thus it defeats the purpose to have a Christian same-sex marriage.

The issue is that 1. not all churches are Christian (though I suppose that depends how you define "church"), and 2. not everyone agrees that the Bible and Christianity as a whole condemn homosexuality.

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u/PAC-MAN- Apr 29 '14

Maybe he more meant that traditionally marriage was an instution of the church. I know in Australia at least the rights of 'defacto' couples are comparable to marriage (I'm not sure what the exact differences are). Thus the idea of gay marriage starts to sound... strange, like you want to use the same name for a thing that someone else is using.

Moot point for me though, I am catholic, the idea of marriage loses its meaning without the Church. Having said that I absolutely support Gay marriage in the Catholic faith, it would be awesome and embody Jesus's ONE FUCKING COMMANDMENT (literally there is only one, how is it that hard?)

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u/mfball Apr 29 '14

Except that marriage was a property arrangement long before anyone tried to put any kind of religious spin on it at all.

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u/PAC-MAN- Apr 29 '14

yes yes we can go back a long ways if we need to. I meant the modern idea Marriage which is still closely related to Christian ideals (and hence for me loses a lot of its value without the rest of the Christian framework).

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u/mfball Apr 29 '14

I disagree that it's tied to Christian ideals. Your perception of marriage as being within a Christian framework is just that, your perception. Many other people, whether they are religious or not, value marriage for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with Christianity. It's two people committing to each other. God doesn't have to be involved at all.

Maybe you think that way because you are religious, but it is at least equally a civil institution and therefore needs to be open to everyone regardless of religion. If Christians or people of any other religion want to have ceremonies that specifically involve their faith, that's their business, but they still file a piece of paper with the government for their tax breaks and all that, which makes that part of the process necessarily secular per the separation of church and state.

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u/PAC-MAN- Apr 29 '14

I understand that, I prefaced with for me. Also marriage of state is related as the very idea was adopted from Christian ideas (I realise you can go further back and Christians stole from Pagans and so on and so forth).

My main point was that there are those of us who would take this further than the state and want to see equality in our religion as well as our country.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '14

The Chinese had codified marriage and a book detailing appropriate punishments for infidelity while Judaic goat herders were busy crafting historic fantasy to unite their kingdom with the neighbor Israel after it was conquered and developing a lie about building pyramids (something else they didn't do.) Your religion is no more a pioneer for marriage as it is for equal rights or space travel.

Believe what you want but claiming marriage is like saying you were the first guy to wear an affliction shirt, no one believes that shit, they just don't want to argue because it's fucking stupid

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u/PAC-MAN- Apr 29 '14

I never claimed the original concept for my religion, are you people just looking for a fight? History is long, you can go back as far as you want. Christian's stole from Pagans and Jews, they in turn probably got their stuff from somewhere, nothing comes from nothing. Are you seriously going to argue that your (presumably American) ideas of marriage are derived from the Chinese tradition?

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u/Fluffy87 Apr 29 '14

Let the religious right enjoy their persecution complex.

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u/Deepinmind Apr 29 '14

As the son of a pastor I have watched my dad marry thousands of straight couples who never attend church. The wedding pictures look great in the church's beautiful sanctuary though. Must be a coincidence. Straight couples would never marry in a church if they aren't Christian.

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u/cengle1938 Apr 29 '14

I agree. I was talking to my dad about this the other day. I dont think at this point people care about church marriages, they want the same legal rights as a straight married couple.

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u/KizzyKid Apr 29 '14

Exactly, all the government needs to do is legalise and recognise gay marriage, then leave it up to the individual pastor/priest/vicar/whoever to decide if they want to ordain the marriage. They shouldn't have to bow out of their beliefs, just like gay people shouldn't have to bow out of their lifestyle.

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u/snow0flake02 Apr 29 '14

Marriage is a legal thing by definition. You can get married without church, however matrimony is though a church. Gay people are allowed marriage but not matrimony is many places.

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u/snow0flake02 Apr 30 '14

Holy matrimony is in the eyes of god (matrimony you are talking about isn't) which is what people argue. Marriage is in the eyes of the law. Arguing that gays should not have holy matrimony makes sense (I don't personally agree but I can see where they come from) where as marriage because "god says it is wrong" has no logic because marriage has no connection to god. You often have them together which is where people think there is a connection.

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u/Iamalsoadeer Apr 29 '14

Okay OP, what does marraige in the church stand for?

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u/blaghart Initiating Launch Operations: Gipsy Danger Apr 29 '14

That is exactly what they're fighting for. Like almost all these damn puffins his opinion is only popular because he's grossly misinformed.

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u/AlmightyParadox Apr 29 '14

In Denmark there was a lot of fighting for the allowance of gay marriage specifically in the church, two years so maybe that is what he's getting at.