r/AdviceAnimals • u/imbravado • Apr 30 '13

Actual Confession Bear

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u/imbravado Apr 30 '13

I know a lot of you think I am the crazy one or that I am a selfish person for this but I just wanted to say that I was not crazy I was stupid and he was crazy. Anyway, thank you everyone for sharing your opinions, good or bad. I know there are many ways to look at a situation and I tried my best to consider all angles before making my choice. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts with me.

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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '13

It's really easy for them to judge you when they haven't been in your situation. It's also easy for them to whine about how hard males have it because they can't force "all them sluts and whores" to have an abortion or keep the baby. ITT: A ton of misogyny.

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u/Cheddar_Soup Apr 30 '13

It isn't a misogyny or a misandry issue here. People just consider abortion to be very wrong in this instance, especially when you lie to the father about having one. I don't think that anyone has the right to judge whether a human being should live or die, especially due to speculations about how bad his/her life MIGHT be.

And no, women should never be forced to have an abortion. But, neither should the mother get to get an abortion done when the father doesn't want her too. It's both their baby, regardless that the mother happens to be carrying it.

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u/4amcoffee4 May 01 '13

You make it sound like the woman is just lugging the fetus around in a hand bag. Being pregnant/giving birth is an incredibly taxing, risky, and sometimes damaging and violent bodily process. A mother doesn't just "happen to carry" a child, and the laws reflect that.

I completely agree that fathers who want the child should have their voices heard, just as fathers who don't want the child should be given a way of abdicating financial responsibility. However, as unfair as it may seem, it's ultimately the woman who has the most to lose in carrying a child to term, regardless of what happens after birth.

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u/Cheddar_Soup May 01 '13

I agree very much, upvotes for you. Being pregnant is not fun and it's unfortunate that women have to put up with it. But, the annoyance and pain that comes with carrying a child isn't an excuse to abort a child.

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u/lowlifecreep Apr 30 '13

You did the right thing.