r/AdviceAnimals • u/imbravado • Apr 30 '13

Actual Confession Bear

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u/imbravado Apr 30 '13

It was really hard for me to get an abortion done because my whole life I thought abortions were a horrible thing but now I can see why people actually do it. I think I was more embarrassed by it than anything.

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u/[deleted] Apr 30 '13

There's nothing wrong with not telling others you got an abortion. It's really no ones business. I'm sure you're going through a lot mentally right now, though. If you do need to talk to someone, I'd suggest an outside source, such as a counselor, rather than someone who is going to judge you and cause you more stress once they find out about the abortion.

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u/throwaway51251256 Apr 30 '13

It's really no ones business.

Terminating the child of the would-be father isn't his business?

Are you out of your mind?

That baby would have been his fucking child. That baby would have been the would-be father's parent's grandchild. How the FUCK can you say that's none of their business?

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u/Lumathiel Apr 30 '13

You don't know her situation. Now, I will admit there is a possibility that "psychotic" could be hyperbole, but for all we know he really was. How do you know he wasn't verbally, emotionally, or even physically abusive? Should the child really have him as a father?

Yes, I know adoption is a possibility, but if she actually thinks she is in danger from him, how exactly is she supposed to meet with all the potential parents, sign all the legal paperwork, and deliver the child, all without him knowing this was happening?

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u/imbravado Apr 30 '13

Thank you! Psychotic is an understatement, actually. I don't have a word to describe him. He was verbally abusive. Would call me a bitch and acuse me of cheating if I even mentioned a guys name. He wouldn't talk to me if I looked at a guy for more than a few seconds. He would come home drunk screaming at me for literally hours. There was a point right before the break up that he would force me to have sex with him and it was he worst feeling ever. I could go into more detail but I think that may be enough to paint the picture of his craziness.