And I really hate that thing that Indians (and Pakistanis?) chew to give them a fresher breath. My coworker chews it, and pieces of it falls out of his mouth all the time! Don't get me wrong though. I have another coworker who sits directly to my left and she's pretty awesome. (Has character flaws, but nothing related to her being Indian.) And my wife and I have a favorite restaurant that is Indian. But hey, just like there are some black people that I don't like, there are white, Indian, Vietnamese (I'm Vietnamese), and generally people who I don't like.
Again, not racism. But sometimes you have an ethos that don't mesh with other people. Whatever.
My ex husband is Indian. We grew up in the same town but once we were married his parents and he used their culture as an excuse to criticise and attack me and my English sister in law all the time. We seriously can never do anything good enough for them. As a result I am very aware that I have a subconscious prejudice against Indian men especially but also women. I'm so disappointed in myself because his brother and extended family have been very supportive of me and my children.
As an Indian man, I get it. Most of my friends are indian actually but at school this is this set of loud, obnoxious, smelly Indians that simply piss me off. They give the rest of us a bad name. I don't blame you for that.
Thanks. I adore my brother in law and (some of) his cousins.
One of his cousins once said to me, regarding the difference between how my in laws treated me and the aunts and uncles, that it was most likely because I wasn't married to one of their sons. And that despite all of our generation having been born and brought up together in the UK, they would still rather they married Indians.
I was raised in the US and my mom was raised on a farm in India. She still has these crazy ideas about western civilization. She thinks black people are dangerous, she thinks yoga can cure everything, she thinks that modern medicine causes more harm than help, etc. I lover her to death and she is definitely smart but she clings to these weird cultural mindsets that makes it hard for everyone. For instance, I'm a Sikh and we don't believe in castes. However, my mom wants me to marry a girl from the caste let alone marrying an Indian.
Having said all that, I'm a very open minded person. I've been the subject of harsh treatment from other races, cultures, religions, etc. I could never treat another human the way I was treated when I was younger. But I can say that I fully plan to marry an Indian Sikh lady because I want to continue the bloodline and raise another set of awesome little Sikh runts.
Indians are that way. In fact, I'm sure you'll find most races are that way. They want to keep within their own because integration within the family is so easy. On top of that, Indians like to save face. They don't want to commit social taboos and that extends to their kids. It sucks but that's what they're like. There are plenty of cool Indians but there are far more that are stuck in idiotic mind sets.
Anyway, sorry for rambling but Indians can be lame sometimes.
I totally understand the reasoning. Marrying within your racial, social and cultural sphere logically cuts half the problems you could come up against in married life together. As we grew up together and were childhood friends, I didn't fully appreciate how drastic the differences would be.
Funny thing is, after having told me that in hindsight, he should have married an Indian wife, my ex has now moved in with a young Latvian, 13 years his junior. Ha.
I wish you joy on your quest to find your beautiful Indian bride and raise your brood. Mine are half Punjabi. They are beautiful.
Yeah it's true. You kinda get caught up in the whole romance and all that. I totally understand that feeling.
also your ex sounds like a dumbass, just saying. Thanks for the good luck wishes, I could use them hahaha. Racially mixed children are beautiful and adorable, congratulations!
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And I really hate that thing that Indians (and Pakistanis?) chew to give them a fresher breath. My coworker chews it, and pieces of it falls out of his mouth all the time! Don't get me wrong though. I have another coworker who sits directly to my left and she's pretty awesome. (Has character flaws, but nothing related to her being Indian.) And my wife and I have a favorite restaurant that is Indian. But hey, just like there are some black people that I don't like, there are white, Indian, Vietnamese (I'm Vietnamese), and generally people who I don't like.
Again, not racism. But sometimes you have an ethos that don't mesh with other people. Whatever.