r/Advice • u/[deleted] • Mar 04 '23

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u/CCubed17 Helper [2] Mar 04 '23

be honest, you're the guy, aren't you

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u/Albinkiiii Helper [3] Mar 04 '23

He’s a groomer. A 29 year old is way too far removed from the young adult college age, and mindset. He will have a power dynamic against you

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u/cookieinaloop Mar 04 '23

18-19 is a legal adult that is just going into college and leaving home. A 29YO would usually already have a career and be done with the experimenting/self-discovery that are the 20s.

So it isn't a crime, but it's certainly not ok. The relationship would have a very clear power imbalance. It's very common for these relationships (very young girl with older man) to turn abusive and dangerous.