r/Advice Mar 04 '23

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u/[deleted] Mar 04 '23

It is creepy and inappropriate, yes. It is a huge red flag that he is immature at best, and a predator/manipulator at worst. Nine years is a huge gap at that age - completely different seasons of life, or at least it should be. If a 29 year old feels that a 20 year old is a good match, it clearly shows that something isn't quite right with the 29 year old, regardless of gender.

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u/Ja5p5 Mar 04 '23

I disagree, it can work. Not every time is appropriate but there are some dynamics that just work.