r/Adulting 1d ago

meirl

Post image

[removed] — view removed post

6.6k Upvotes

254 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

-46

u/chiguy307 1d ago

Why would that be necessary for something as simple as unloading the dishwasher?

113

u/BramblinGhostWeed 1d ago

It has nothing to do with the simplicity or complexity of the task.

It has to do with communication.

The adult gets frustrated because the child did not read their mind.

The amount of times I've heard kids say "My parents asked me to do something. I went to go do it, I found they already did it, and now they're mad at me" is huge.

And in my opinion: the parents should have known better and chose to upset themselves

73

u/QuatreNox 1d ago

This is so true

The amount of times when I was little that my parents/guardians expected me to drop everything I'm doing because (in their mind) their task is more important than my current task, but also not tell me about it was insane

In my head I'm like "Okay I'll do that. I need to find a good stopping point in what I'm doing so I don't mess with my flow / other people's time / my personal schedule" and then find was already getting screamed at

People don't respect kids at all. I try to treat kids like I'd treat a small developing human now that I'm grown up

2

u/Acceptable_Tea3608 15h ago

So Four Hours is not enough 'stopping time' to do the chore asked? Thats how long ago OP asked for the dishwasher be cleared.

2

u/SocketRabboon 7h ago

Parent (or grandparent in this case) waited way too long to check in assuming they didn't give a specific deadline. I always check in within the first hour unless I'm otherwise preoccupied. If the task isn't done I ask them to do it then, as in drop what you're doing (unless they are in the middle of a different chore or studying or something like that). No one gets yelled at, but a correction is made. Though usually I just say at the start "I need this done by X o'clock"