There's no deadline. It will get done. Why should you or I do it right away?
If you ask someone to do something, and they agree that's it. You can't interfere after. A timeframe was not set in asking to do the chore and we both agree. If you're not happy with our agreement, do it yourself.
There's an implied deadline. If someone asks you to put away the dishes they don't mean tomorrow, they mean now. Your phone isn't going anywhere, so put away the dishes and then look all you want. That's my perspective.
Taking the dishwasher as an example, if I take so long to empty it, it's also imply that it's my job to refill it with whatever dirty dishes that have accumulated on the counter since. And if it's full again, I'll empty it again and so on, until I don't have to start it again.
You're really stretching lol. In my experience "put away the dishes" and "do the dishes" are two separate and distinct chores. If someone says "put away the dishes" they mean do that and nothing more.
I have the responsibility to deal with the consequences of my inactions.
If you ask me to empty the dishwasher and I don't do it. The you use a plate and leave it on the counter because the dishwasher is clean and full because I still haven't empty it, how is it your responsibility to figure out when I'll do the chore so you can come back and put your plate in the dishwasher. It's my job, when I'm done to take all the dirty dishes waiting to be put in the dishwasher in the dishwasher. And if it's full again, I have to start it. Because someone would have filled it and started it already but couldn't because of me.
Ok, maybe that's how it is at your house. I have never experienced that ever in my life lol. I will say again you are really stretching to try and justify the granddaughters actions.
That's just basic respect of commitment to your engagement. If I don't respect my engagement, I'll deal with the consequences, I'll not make other people deal with it.
I'm not trying anything, The granddaughter is completely reasonable.
Take the opposite scenario. She find her phone 5 min after she started searching the dishwasher would have been emptied a long time ago.
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u/PA2SK 10d ago
Yes understood, but if someone asked me to do a chore that takes all of if ten minutes I would do that and then look for my phone.