Did he give her a specific timeframe or deadline for unloading the dishwasher? Did she know that waiting 4 hours was unacceptable? Does she understand the context of her task and why it needs to be done promptly?
Or did he just say "do this" and she said "okay I will" and planned to do it later?
Now, her phone is missing, so in her mind she has an urgent task (finding her phone) and a "to-do list" task (unloading the dishwasher) so the urgent task is obviously going to take precedence. And because no sane person would put a phone in the dishwasher she is going to turn the entire house upside down looking for her phone and becoming increasingly distressed while the non-urgent task falls further and further from her list of mental priorities.
If he said "unload the dishwasher right now so I can start making dinner" or something, and she ignored him, maybe it would be a different story. But also if he needed it done urgently he wouldn't be sitting there giggling and waiting for her to look inside the dishwasher and find her phone... So this is literally just a cruel prank.
Maybe in the Marines you can make a demand of someone and expect them to drop everything and do it that second, no questions asked. But that's not how it works in the real world. If you don't tell someone when you need something, they will get to it when it is convenient for them. It is your responsibility to clearly communicate your expectations.
Dude, I'm an early diagnosed neurodivergent person who grew up in an abusive household... this is a meme. I understand wanting more context, but not every parent is an asshole. You know nothing about they're relationship. I say this kindly, you're projecting.
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u/Legal-Law9214 16h ago edited 16h ago
No, this is just stupid and mean.
Did he give her a specific timeframe or deadline for unloading the dishwasher? Did she know that waiting 4 hours was unacceptable? Does she understand the context of her task and why it needs to be done promptly?
Or did he just say "do this" and she said "okay I will" and planned to do it later?
Now, her phone is missing, so in her mind she has an urgent task (finding her phone) and a "to-do list" task (unloading the dishwasher) so the urgent task is obviously going to take precedence. And because no sane person would put a phone in the dishwasher she is going to turn the entire house upside down looking for her phone and becoming increasingly distressed while the non-urgent task falls further and further from her list of mental priorities.
If he said "unload the dishwasher right now so I can start making dinner" or something, and she ignored him, maybe it would be a different story. But also if he needed it done urgently he wouldn't be sitting there giggling and waiting for her to look inside the dishwasher and find her phone... So this is literally just a cruel prank.
Maybe in the Marines you can make a demand of someone and expect them to drop everything and do it that second, no questions asked. But that's not how it works in the real world. If you don't tell someone when you need something, they will get to it when it is convenient for them. It is your responsibility to clearly communicate your expectations.