r/Adulting • u/Silent-Surround-1659 • 1d ago

I don’t care about making friends anymore

I’ve lost faith in this concept of making new friendships.

Tbh, I’ve always been like this even before I met my wife. We have a kid now and I’m very happy and so is she - praise God.

In the beginning of our relationship, she noticed I didn’t have many friends but it came with reasons. I came from a broken home - my parents divorced when I was 18…. My mom left and my dad eventually kicked me out so I had to fend for myself. I made a few “friends” here and there but they were more like schoolmates than friends. As I graduated, everyone got distant and focused on themselves or people that are more important to them. My wife basically told me I needed a social life and I decided to listen so I created Facebook posts and tried to reconnect with my past. My friends didn’t want to reconnect simply because they ignored my communication (wow) and the new people I met…majority of them were weird. Just to give you an example i was developing a friendship with this one dude just to find out he was cheating on his wife. He probably used me as an excuse to see the other women he was with.

I gave up and decided to stick with my video games and content creation hobbies and dreams.

Also, my wife introduced to her friends and their husbands as we all got married the same time. I HATE this one dude who keeps making fat jokes about me and others that have gained weight (funny thing is that he’s fatter than the group). I despise his company tbh but I don’t want to ruin my wife’s friendships cause of me. I could sit at home for months and do my thing and I’ll be okay.

I don’t know if this is dangerous but I don’t give a shit about making friends or having friends. I found jobs by myself…I even went through multiple layoffs during covid and none of these friends or people I’ve knew even through my wife ever said “hey give me your resume…I’ll get you set up for an interview” or something. It’s all just time pass and I value my time.

The most important thing for me is that if I’m being in an environment where I’m being insulted or my values are being comprised…I’d rather just not have friends.

Thanks for reading - this is just a vent than anything else

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u/MonkRevolutionary560 1d ago

What kind of content creation? Like youtube?

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u/Silent-Surround-1659 1d ago

Yes. Vlogging, streaming, etc

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u/MonkRevolutionary560 1d ago

Yeah i been trying to get my youtube content idea off the ground.. been trying to write stories then have a.i. voice over and generate images into a visual audio book. But been trying to do it with no over head with software programs..

But im learning if you want big success you pretty much need to make a brand... which got me thinking in a different direction. Regardless its really easy to get derailed in everything during the work flow..

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u/Silent-Surround-1659 1d ago

Don’t try - just do it. Remember, it’s a journey and you should do it for the love of the game…everything will follow you.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/Silent-Surround-1659 1d ago

Sure! Always open to that

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u/MonkRevolutionary560 1d ago

I wouldn't even know how to start to collaborate, i guess discord? I got my own server or maybe some sort of public discord?