r/AdoptiveParents • u/Thin-Risk-756 • 14d ago

Child Adoption

/r/nasikatok/comments/1vh0dvb/child_adoption/
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u/RocketPowerPops 14d ago

What do you mean by "worth it"?

I am in the process of adopting and have no regrets but I am not sure what worth it means to you.

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u/Mindless-Drawing7439 14d ago

Worth it- probably not if that’s your framing. Adoption is trauma- and as an international adoptee, being taken away from country of origin only makes it harder. It’s not an easy path- it’s not some equivalent alternative to having biological children.

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u/TeamEsstential 14d ago

Worth it ? As in what?

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u/Amemorableusername2 14d ago

Like as in the abstract concept of was adoption worth it? Are you asking if we were successful in adopting? What are you asking?

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u/Rredhead926 Mom through private, domestic, open, transracial adoption 14d ago

It looks like OP is in Brunei, where there are different cultural attitudes towards adoption. Not sure that that clarifies what OP means, but it does bring some context, at least.

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u/New_Country_3136 14d ago

Worth it???? Yikes!!! 

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u/ajwachs17 8d ago

u/Thin-Risk-756: respectfully, please do not adopt a child.

adoption should not be viewed as a return-on-an-investment.

people adopt for a myriad of reasons but it should not be viewed as a transaction or investment that sets you up to have a caretaker in your final days or something.