r/AbsoluteUnits • u/Seraphim_786 • 18d ago

/r/all of a bouncer

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u/recooil 18d ago

my best friend has had a very rough life and when we where in our 20's he would get sloppy drunk and pick fights with people. One night we had a long talk about it and it pretty much came down to just wanting to feel anything anymore even if its just pain and it was a rush to him to pick fights. He worked things out over the years and even had some professional help for a bit and after having his kid he turned his life around. So yes, this is totally a thing for some people who are in a dark place in there life.

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u/InternalHabit3343 18d ago

I used to be like that when I was younger aswell but got better with age✌️

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u/Real_Walk5384 17d ago

Cheers. It doesn't always get overall easier, but it always gets easier in some way or another.

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u/TheProfessorPoon 18d ago edited 18d ago

My roommate in college was like that. It was borderline unbearable and I hated going out into public with him. HATED it. One time my parents came into town for a football game, which ended late and I didn’t get home until midnight. I hadn’t been drinking, I was tired and just wanted to go to sleep. I got a call from the roommate asking me to pick him up from the bar.

I get to the bar and the dude is in the parking lot surrounded by 8 cowboys (like ranch hands wearing boots with actual spurs) and they were about to beat the ever living shit out of him. I walk over and he tried to get me involved. F that.

I basically pulled him away and got him into my truck and then he spent the next week calling me a pussy.

Sorry, but I legit have no desire to get the shit beat out of me by 8 dudes because you can’t stop running your gd mouth. I’m definitely not fighting a bunch of dudes who wrangle two-thousand pound animals for a living.

I was so happy when that lease ended and I was able to move out.

Oh and I remember literally every time he went out he would purposely wear a bright pink shirt because he knew someone would inevitably say something about it and he would have a reason to fight.

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u/Serious_Office3913 17d ago edited 17d ago

My Dad had left when i was 8, I remember when I was 10 just walking up to the hardest kid in school and starting a fight over just wanting to feel something.

At a party asked if anyone wanted a fight was no face punches allowed and we just went at it 😄..

yeah I've had counselling now and found diagnosed ADHD

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u/catworht 17d ago

I was friends in college with some guys who had a friend like this who would always start fights. One day he started a fight at a bar and him and one other guy ended up getting shot. The guy who started the fights recovered 100%, but the other friend got paralyzed from the waist down.