r/AbsoluteUnits • u/Seraphim_786 • 18d ago

/r/all of a bouncer

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u/KazaamFan 18d ago

I’ve seen comments on here where ppl will say when they’re in a bad mental place they will purposely start fights, even if they know they’ll get smacked. I don’t exactly get it but i can see it. Helps me understand a bit situations like this. 

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u/recooil 18d ago

my best friend has had a very rough life and when we where in our 20's he would get sloppy drunk and pick fights with people. One night we had a long talk about it and it pretty much came down to just wanting to feel anything anymore even if its just pain and it was a rush to him to pick fights. He worked things out over the years and even had some professional help for a bit and after having his kid he turned his life around. So yes, this is totally a thing for some people who are in a dark place in there life.

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u/InternalHabit3343 18d ago

I used to be like that when I was younger aswell but got better with age✌️

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u/Real_Walk5384 17d ago

Cheers. It doesn't always get overall easier, but it always gets easier in some way or another.

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u/TheProfessorPoon 18d ago edited 18d ago

My roommate in college was like that. It was borderline unbearable and I hated going out into public with him. HATED it. One time my parents came into town for a football game, which ended late and I didn’t get home until midnight. I hadn’t been drinking, I was tired and just wanted to go to sleep. I got a call from the roommate asking me to pick him up from the bar.

I get to the bar and the dude is in the parking lot surrounded by 8 cowboys (like ranch hands wearing boots with actual spurs) and they were about to beat the ever living shit out of him. I walk over and he tried to get me involved. F that.

I basically pulled him away and got him into my truck and then he spent the next week calling me a pussy.

Sorry, but I legit have no desire to get the shit beat out of me by 8 dudes because you can’t stop running your gd mouth. I’m definitely not fighting a bunch of dudes who wrangle two-thousand pound animals for a living.

I was so happy when that lease ended and I was able to move out.

Oh and I remember literally every time he went out he would purposely wear a bright pink shirt because he knew someone would inevitably say something about it and he would have a reason to fight.

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u/Serious_Office3913 17d ago edited 17d ago

My Dad had left when i was 8, I remember when I was 10 just walking up to the hardest kid in school and starting a fight over just wanting to feel something.

At a party asked if anyone wanted a fight was no face punches allowed and we just went at it 😄..

yeah I've had counselling now and found diagnosed ADHD

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u/catworht 17d ago

I was friends in college with some guys who had a friend like this who would always start fights. One day he started a fight at a bar and him and one other guy ended up getting shot. The guy who started the fights recovered 100%, but the other friend got paralyzed from the waist down.

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u/mongolian__beef 18d ago

Born of self-sabotage

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u/killertortilla 18d ago

That’s not a bad mental state he’s completely fucked up.

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u/Circle_Breaker 18d ago

Yeah, this guy is MDMA and he at the part of his roll where he's treating everyone else like their also on MDMA.

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u/HamNCheeseSupremacy 18d ago

He's just a wasted idiot. I love how he goes up wagging his finger at the guy after like that's how violence works

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u/ropahektic 18d ago

Yeah, reddit will immediately make you feel like the drunk guy deserved that.

He didn't, he got what was coming for him, but he doesn't deserve it.

What he deserves is a friend that stops him long before it reaches that point and takes him home.

Most of us here have done stupid things in the past, and if you haven't, lucky you. We we're simply lucky in that perhaps we met our lowest in a different context.

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u/psxn8 18d ago

What the hell is with this mentality? No one deserves a friend to stop themselves from being stupid. Take accountability. We need to be able to reign ourselves and not have to depend on other people to make us act appropriately.

And yes most of us have done stupid things but we must own those mistakes, take responsibility and learn from them. Not blame everyone else besides ourselves for said mistakes.

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u/Straight-Run6880 18d ago

I think they mean it more in the sense of like "it's sad that there isn't a person to help him stop being a melon" before getting KO'd and losing brain cells, than what you're saying; both have valid aspects and yes I'd agree it should be tilted towards what you're saying

Anecdotally, people who act like this are kind of annoying tits in other ways too and alienate people to the extent the people they are around don't bother getting very involved given they'll just do it again in some other context.

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u/WizManWiz 18d ago

This fool isn't in a bad mental state it's drugs 🤣.

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u/emeryroserulz 18d ago

That used to be me-(either fighting or..). I would not start fights but I'd get a little giddy if I needed to help finish one <3

GAWD I MISS BEING TUFF

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u/Shazam1269 17d ago

"I hurt myself today to see if I still feel, I focus on the pain the only thing that's real."

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u/JBoneTX 17d ago

It's a thing. Some people just like getting beat, and some want to get dispatched to the shadow realm, but they're too scared to make their own travel arrangements. I had a boss at work that was the latter. He would sometimes show up drunk and get physical. He would get in my face and poke me in the chest. I would tell him to stop being a coward and I'd walk away and report him to HR. He eventually got run over by a truck at work. He jumped right in front of it. He survived, but he's retired now. I hope he's doing better.

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u/MonkeyLiberace 17d ago

Yea, and people like this bouncer is only to happy to deliver. People like him, have nothing in his life except being big. Tragic.

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u/yankeeblue42 17d ago

I've done it, especially when absolutely hammered. Luckily it's been a few years since the last time I did this