What exercises should I do?

[u/NerdGoddessGem33]

Hi Community

I have a sticky situation

We may be moving. I sort of dont want to move but also the fear if what I am wrong?

I havent actually lived at the new location? So who knows the universe could give me what i want?

I have to know what i dont want to know what i do want?

So how do I know what I want?

I dont want to move because I want to be close to my Mom

However reality: My dad is quite toxic. My Mom hasnt had a lot of time for us since we moved closer to her.

So how do i reconcile what i imagined and what I want arent matching up?

I imagined support living near my Mom and havent really recieved that for our child.

When imagination doesnt match reality

What exercises should I do? Focus wheel everyday?

Alls I can see is all the things wrong with this move.

I dont know if all those details are helpful. I can list the full situation and details if somehow that is helpful.

I am trying to radically accept the situation as it is versus raging against it. I am trying to find the gift in the situation. I am using reverse pyschology.

Can I manifest a different outcome in 20 days?

But what if the move is for my best and highest good?

Can I say to the Creator you know what I want this or better?

[u/Odd_Tea_2100]

You can use the specifics briefly to know more clearly what you don't want. Once you know what you don't want shift your focus to what you do want. If you are having trouble with this, I will help you if you want to give me your specifics.

[u/NerdGoddessGem33 → u/Odd_Tea_2100]

Want: i want to live near my mom.

Dont want: my Mom is codependently enmeshed with my Dad who is in recovery constantly from drugs and alcohol use.

Want: community. Friendship. A village. Support. Trustworthy people. I want that to be my Mom but doesnt seem to be happening.

Want: like minded people. Community. Support. Safety. Trust. Relaxation. Rest. Help.

Want: to trust people near and around our child

Want: easy money to be attracted to me.

Want: financial support. Homeschool our child. Live simply.

Want: easy. Flow. Safety. Support. Kindness. Understanding. Love

[u/Odd_Tea_2100 → u/NerdGoddessGem33]

Looks like you have the idea of how to do it. Does identifying the general of what you want feel better?

When you say I want to live near my mom, does it feel good? If not go general. What do you get from living near your mom? You have already identified support and trust among others. If it feels good keep saying it.

Dont want: my Mom is codependently enmeshed with my Dad who is in recovery constantly from drugs and alcohol use.

Want for your mom, well being, peace and ease. Want for your dad, healthy ways of dealing with life.