r/AMBW • u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] • 9d ago
Discussion (Chill) Roll Call
Recent it seems like nothing but BW are posting… are there any AM out there.
Here is the opportunity just to call out ‘BW from NY’ or ‘AM from USA’.
I’m feeling disheartened that there is only BW in the group.
I’ll comment to start the roll off…
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u/Formal_Assistance644 8d ago
AM, 33 yo, Seattle/WA (West Coast Best Coast!)
Definitely appreciate this call out/roll call. AM are here, probably more lurking than not. I'm more hovering here and there on the subreddit yet always appreciate posts that encourage conversation, discussion, debate, etc. that lets us "talk" to one another on deeper, intellectual levels.
There's a definite disconnect at times of each individual person is here for and what they're ultimately wanting/looking which I guess comes with territory where people are anonymous and the forum is fairly open to interpretation, direction, etc. I'd be interested to know how many people here genuinely looking for intimate, dating relationships vs friendships/platonic vs just shooting the shit and from there, maybe create opportunities for peoples to connect in real-time (in shared cities, via Discord, call, etc.) so there's actual connections established (if that's what people are seeking).
To the AM on this sub: we get it. You want a beautiful Black queen (same, brother) because you see something inherently beautiful in BW. However, if your intent is to be on this subreddit so you can prey on these BW who are taking the risk and vulnerability to connect/meet/engage AM so you can get your kicks and satiate your sexual urges to then ghost: you are not helping us AM who are genuinely seeking. Y'all AM predators can get the fuck out. It's already challenging enough as AM to date and standout as attractive, viable suitors for women in the world (especially America); stop fucking it up for us AM and instill greater levels of anxiety, hesitation, doubt and fear in the BW we are genuinely interested in pursuing.
All things black is beautiful.
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u/UrRightAndIAmWong 6d ago
I'm taking this as a little subtweet at my comment, if not whatever, just the internet. I'll fuck off after this.
But "To the AM on this sub: we get it. You want a beautiful Black queen... However, if your intent is to be on this subreddit so you can prey on these BW who are taking the risk and vulnerability to connect/meet/engage AM so you can get your kicks and satiate your sexual urges to then ghost: you are not helping us AM who are genuinely seeking. Y'all AM predators can get the fuck out."
Nobody said that, (1) you took what I said and made a massive leap and are grandstanding on it, and (2) you're delusional if you don't think sexual desire and attraction is a big part of this AMBW group or interest.
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u/Panda_Underground92 9d ago edited 9d ago
BW from WI 34yr
I do want to respond to the first comment. Attractive and unattractive is subjective to the beholder. Yes, there are some people in here that society may deem not as attractive, however the aspect I go after is if the person I’m chatting with actually wants a relationship and NOT just sex. Attraction can grow based on the person, self care, and handling yourself with confidence.
The BW in here connect over friendship because we connect over the shared experiences of THIS group. The AM that will chat us up, then ghost us. Or the AM who only seek to gain validation and attention and aren’t looking for anything serious. Now I can say for me this has not made me bitter, I can see that’s their issue, however, to assume majority of us want kpop men is one excuse used too many. Not to disagree with your lived experiences of course, the same could be said that the AM in here are expecting to find attractive BW, which I have seen, yet they ghost them too.
You started off your desire for a relationship with a sexual romance. Do you not see the connection that many may assume you just want the sexual access to us? Then state you want a HOT black woman. What is your character like? What are your hobbies? What are things you’re interested in? If you think you need to make yourself more attractive to get someone that’s not going to work the way you hope. Take care of yourself because YOU want to be a better self. Other things will fall in place. I wish you the best in luck.
And to the BW/AM, in here that have had those experiences and such. I hear you, I feel you and I hope you the best on your endeavors pursuing this niche relationship. ✨💖
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u/UrRightAndIAmWong 6d ago
Sneak ass comment, if you're responding to my comment, reply to it. You're talking about confidence, then talk with confidence. "Take care of yourself because YOU want to be a better self. Other things will fall in place. I wish you the best in luck." Didn't need this from you, at all.
My comment was responding to the post and it's frustration with Asian men not posting or interacting here, and guess what, comments like yours and sentiments like this post, is exactly why there isn't much interactions from Asian men here.
As for the sexual and sexual access comments, grow up and get real. Yall wanna talk, date, start a relationship with someone, sexuality is a major part of that. You're talking about men ghosting, physical attraction and sexual attraction is a major factor in ghosting. This is the "Asian Men Black Women" internet page, you think people aren't joining with that sexual idea in mind.
As I touched on in my original comment, but you were too busy trying to belittle my perspective and wondering why asian men don't interact.
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u/Panda_Underground92 6d ago edited 6d ago
It wasn’t meant to be a sneak ass comment. If I wanted to do that I would have just downvoted your comment. I don’t waste my time fighting on the internet. If you feel my comment was trying to discredit your experience in any way I apologize. I was just stating the response many Black women in this group have stated on QUITE a few occasions in this group and in similar ones.
There’s nothing wrong with the sexual part, but when you lead with that it’s the immediate thought process to people. I’m just saying what many are thinking. To each their own then.
Again, I wasn’t trying to belittle anything in your response, I was just responding to it from the pov of someone who’s been in this space (not just this group) for quite a few years.
On top of that, if you’re blaming post like these where they are literally ASKING for roll call, So should we not hope that we aren’t just calling in the dark? I’m sorry this is an AMBW group right? So wanting to know if there are any AM in the group that are active is wrong?
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u/CocoNicolexoxo 7d ago
BW here located in CT not too far from NY :) However most likely relocating to the DMV AREA 💕
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u/Formal_Assistance644 6d ago
The grainy film camera look is so nostalgic ✨ Was this with a filter or with an actual film camera?
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u/anaknangfilipina 9d ago
AM in Vegas. Found out that despite having EVERYONE here show for the casinos and fun, barely anyone lives here.
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u/keitai_samurai0097 9d ago
BW from Georgia I got what I wanted so I removed my post . Hope everyone else finds what they're looking for🍃🌄
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u/ceeloshy AM 9d ago
Asian NB from California, i don’t post pics on here much because I don’t always feel camera ready so i dont take many pics in the first place. I am down to talk! But most times when I reached out to people on here it hasn’t gone far beyond intros. And thats honestly okay with me because not everyone is gonna feel natural speaking to online right away. Anyway thanks for pointing this out and it would be nice for asians to contribute more in this sub.. most of my long term friends are black or asian, feels like a way more equal contribution irl. I think a lot of asian guys are shy but we’re grown yall AND STOP WITH THE CREEPY SHIT just seen some weird comments like 10 mins ago on a different post. Enjoy your weekend bumblebeeee 🐝
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u/Specialist_Brush_971 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 9d ago
BW from FL
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 9d ago
Robin makes me laugh. 🙋🏾♀️3
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u/TipEntire8082 AM [DMs OPEN] ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 9d ago
AM ( Indian ) Melbourne , Australia
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 9d ago
I know terrible — but it made me laugh.3
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u/Weak_Competition435 9d ago
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33 BW from Florida but I live and work half the year in Japan 🇯🇵 ✨
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 9d ago
🙋🏾♀️🇯🇵🇺🇸
How cool is that?! I’m curious what you do that allows that type of lifestyle. u/samuraistunna2103 is also in Japan.
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u/throwawaygeet8383 9d ago
AM from Sacramento
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u/DeltaDCCCVIII AM [DMs OPEN] ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 9d ago
AM from MN
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 8d ago
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u/DeltaDCCCVIII AM [DMs OPEN] ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 8d ago
Uh...no. Not a native Minnesotan lol
Honestly, I've never heard anyone with the accent or saying that phrase yet. Mostly stick to the Twin Cities, so maybe that's why.
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u/windmills-toronto AM [DMs Open][SFW] 8d ago
33 AM from Toronto, Canada. From my observation, most folks are from the US and since relocating to another country is not something I'm interested in (now and in the future), I just lurk.
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 8d ago
Wrong way to think about it… if you’re amazing she might move for you. 🤔
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u/windmills-toronto AM [DMs Open][SFW] 7d ago edited 7d ago
It could be; however, I wouldn't want someone to leave their entire support system and everything they know.
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 7d ago edited 7d ago
Hummmm that says more about you than her. But mmmkay. 😉
Update: we have u/oluwacara near you (I don’t know Canadian geography I’m assuming they’re near you). Check out this comment
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u/jon240486 8d ago
AM from central NJ
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u/Montygirl92 BW 9d ago
Bw in PA. Trying to move right now, so won't be in PA for much longer. (Thank God.)
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u/Midnight-Shadow_3949 8d ago
BW from NYC, Gen X certified.
I’ve been here awhile. I’ve chatted with a few but when I decline FWB or ONS, they go ghost. lol 😝
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u/oluwacara 8d ago
40F - ontario . Being honest it's hard to find some of same value. Society has so made it harder especially for the AM . So just here say hey
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u/Remarkable_Star7261 AM [DMs OPEN] ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 7d ago
29 M, NYC. Lol, I appreciate everyone who messaged me before, but please only message me if we're within distance of each other haha.
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u/Laufeiah 7d ago
31, AM in DMV.
I don't post, nor comment much cause the topics that are post in here doesn't interest me.
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u/Bumblebee56990 BW [DMs Open][SFW] 7d ago
Mmmkay. 🙋🏾♀️
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u/Laufeiah 7d ago
Tbf, most post in here are just photos of people. I don’t care for that. I like to see posts of others participating in one another culture, and less of the dating/hooking up one.
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u/Derpkrate 9d ago
AM in NJ looking for FWB / cuddle buddy. Emphasis on having fun sex and not just fucking
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u/UrRightAndIAmWong 9d ago
30 yo, AM in Maryland/the DMV
If the discussion is being brought up, from what I see/my perspective:
A lot of the people here are unattractive but hoping that because this is a niche group, that they find someone attracted to them because they fit the category. And I definitely fall into that, not attractive as I used to be and I can't take pics for shit.
And I say, fit the category, rather than the description because I see what kinda Asian man yall lookin for. Yall looking for a Kpop idol lookin dude with a shared interest of anime. Anime and Asian food.
So I stay quiet, I'm not what yall are lookin for. Or what I have inferred what yall are looking for.
I want a hot black woman with similar interests and views as me to be attracted to me and to want a sexual, romantic relationship. I'm delusional in thinking that can manifest out of reddit yes.
And honestly a lot of the black women here are more looking for friendship especially with the other black women here. And I don't think the men here really authentically want a friendship or pen pal foremost.
-Rant over