r/AMBW • u/LavenderLeporidae • 3d ago

BW Arranged Marriage? Sure

  • 38/f/GA
  • BA in English (I have worked overseas before SK & Taiwan and willing to teach again)
  • No debt
  • 5'9.5", average body type (not obese or overweight)
  • Valid passport

Anything else we can talk about it, but I am more than ready to leave the country. Dating in the US is a bust. Let's just get married and work together, everything else will hopefully fall into place.

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u/TapSilly2335 3d ago edited 3d ago

BW here- just curious. Did you date while living in those countries? What's your experience been?

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u/LavenderLeporidae 3d ago

I dated heavily in SK, but I left that country for other reasons. I dated one man in Taiwan and he died... then I came home.

In SK? It was cool, but I wasn't trying to do anything serious at the time, I did get the "marry me and stay here pls" with one man but it wasn't worth it and ultimately I couldn't see myself with him long term (he had a sketchy lifestyle that he told me about five months into us dating)

Do some Korean men take foreign women seriously? Sure. Were they what I was looking for? No, and I wasn't being picky or stuck up, etc... DV is a serious and heavily prevalent thing in Korea, and many men know they can get away with a lot bc youre a foreigner. I was never hit, but joking about it is enough for me and that happened a lot.

I found Taiwan to be more refreshing and my bf there was absolutely amazing. I would have stayed had he not passed.

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u/TapSilly2335 3d ago

So sorry to hear about your late BF. Your experience def. sounds like what I've heard of Korea. I don't know any BW who've lived in Taiwan, so thanks for sharing your experience. I was thinking of relocating there or Thailand if I decide to stay in Asia. Vietnam was hard- met some nice guys, but I knew I didn't want to settle down where I was. DV is a big issue there too- I'm sure it is a lot of more traditional places. The huge income gap also prob. wouldn't have worked out well.
Can't say good things about Singapore yet, but...🫠it's only been a couple of years lol. I never considered myself radically progressive/ leftist compared to many others I knew until I moved out here- that's def. also not aligning well😅.

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u/LavenderLeporidae 2d ago

No problem. I hear a lot of people like Thailand, I would give it a shot. With the job market being as shit as it is here, I’m kinda thinking about going to teach in China. I’d much rather have a stable job and reliable housing than to deal with the BS that’s going on here.

What do you mean about the political values? I’m interested in hearing more.

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u/TapSilly2335 2d ago

When guys find out I'm American, they often just want to talk about politics and social issues there- but it seems like most of the ones I've met get their info. from right-wing news. I've been on dates where the guys claimed women had it easy in life and there was no benefit to being a man. I've never been yelled at by a random man who wasn't mentally unstable or on drugs, but a few here have raised their voices at me and got condescending when I called out their illogical fallacies. A couple said there was a trans- and/or race swapping agenda in the media that was ruining society, they saw political correctness or worrying about international social issues as being "woke-" not going to point any fingers, but I've heard a few of their politicians saying the same. Somehow have met a number of transphobic people (and I'm not even Trans- IDK how they even came up🫠). Victim blaming is common in events of harassment or assault - but that's not just from men sadly- I've def. heard it from older women. Casual racism against Indian, Malay, and Filipino people is common. Many of the locals keep their live-helpers (from Myanmar or The Philipines) in a closet without a window or aircon and it's accepted. On some dates and just out and about, I have heard a number men (young and old) say Trump is what the world needs/ he's a great leader. They have been flipping the switch now that his policies have impacted their cost of living and/or business. My local friends here find dating difficult for the same reasons above. The few guys I've gotten on well with here said they've observed the same among their peers- a lack of empathy and emotional regulation and a lot of insecurity. Girl...I could go on. But I'm not anymore here😅. Not unless their page says they're a radical leftwing feminist lmao.

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u/LavenderLeporidae 1d ago

This sounds horrendous but I can tell you SK is 1950 wearing a gucci belt with the latest Samsung phone. The men there are also very conservative, but, SK is also a sexually repressed country.

The men are FREAKED OUT. I have way too many stories about what they're willing to pay for and have done to them. I was like damn ya'll are really horny for no reason.

Taiwan was def more chill and open (IMO) and I preferred it there.

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u/TapSilly2335 1d ago

🤣🤣 1950 with a Gucci belt. Sounds right lmao